Is it wrong to keep your kids away from family because they are in an enviorment that isnt healthy for children?

Jessica - posted on 08/19/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have family members who are telling me it's wrong of me to keep my kids away from family, that im being selfish, and negative, and i dont deserve to be a mom because im withholding them.

I just dont want them in a certain family members house because it's disgusting, and they live with a pedophile.

I told them they can come over my house but my kids wont spend the night or any time at their house until the house is fixed and they kick the pedophile out.

I'm not wrong for having certain standards for what I want around my kids, and protecting their safety am i? Am I alone in this?

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Danielle - posted on 08/19/2012

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Holy Crap!
Of course you shouldn't have your kids around a pedophile!
I am actually more concerned that your family doesn't see an issue with the fact that they have someone with that history living under their roof, and thinks its appropriate to have children around.

Don't lower your standards!!
There are way to many obvious risks for having your children around such people!!
I am actually pretty shocked that this is an issue you are doubting yourself on.

Your family sounds irresponsible, and in an unfit mind to be monitoring children just based on the premise they are seemingly defending a pedophile...never mind having him as a houseguest while requesting visitation with young children.

Even if they did kick the pervert out I would never leave my children unattended with people who have such an askew sense of reality.

My advice: STAY AWAY!!

Chaya - posted on 08/19/2012

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You shouldn't let your children around them, nor should you be around them. I was in the same boat and had to leave the state, it literally saved my sanity as my siblings were hell bent on destroying it

Angie - posted on 08/19/2012

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I don't think anyone should feel wrong for holding to certain standards, and if you are offering for them to visit at your house, that seems to be a great compromise. Me personally wouldn't deal well with family members telling me I was selfish, negative, and not deserving to be a mom; there's no reason to resort to name calling & put downs because you expect your kids to be in a healthy environment....hang in there & stay strong in your beliefs :)

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Dove - posted on 08/19/2012

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Without knowing any more of the situation than your op.... I do not think you are wrong at all.

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