Brittney - posted on 12/16/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am a stay at home mom with a 5, 3, and 1 year old. I love having this opportunity and I have a great husband. He's gone 2 weeks at a time so everything falls on me when he's at work. I don't mind it because I enjoy the time to feel independent and practice my independent skills but I feel like he doesn't understand me when I tell him I think I need some me alone time. It always turns Into how I should want to spend time with my family and I shouldn't want to be away from them. I understand where he comes from because yes he is away from family for 2 weeks. But I'm not. I'm here 24/7. I don't get breaks and my youngest hasn't slept a whole night once yet since he was born. So usually I wake up grumpy and my oldest has begun the talking back and attitudes and my middle child is in like an advanced stage of terrible 2s so mornings are just not my thing even if I go to bed early I still just can't feel rested. All I do clean cook take care of my kids the animals and everything else which yes I understand that is the responsibility of being a mom and wife but what really bothers me is when I do take a couple hours to myself I come home and I feel like my husband guilt trips me or I feel like it makes him upset or somthing. He tells me he's just being selfish and misses me and I think that's true but still I don't do like anything for me anymore. Every time I mention getting out maby once a week or somthing of just a couple hours of alone time it just turns into a battle. It drives me crazy how it turns into I would love to do what you do. How would you like to be away from your family 2 weeks at a time yada yada... It makes me want to yell I freaking get it! But part of me wants to yell you get breaks! You get your meals prepared for you. You get to sleep at night and you get quiet time and ugh. I can't even go to the bathroom by myself which I'm a mom thats a given lol but I have also been on a weight loss journey and if I wanna work out I got to watch the kids at the same time. And even when my husband is home I go to workout and he suddenly decides he's gotta go outside and do stuff. All I want is a freakin half hour of me my iPod and to exercise without having to make sure the kids aren't killing each other or the baby's crawling in the treadmill etc. I'm slowly finding ways to accomplish this but every once in a while I would like to do simthing alone have the opportunity to be in my own head. Is this wrong? I feel like I do a good job. I work teally hard to teach the kids to clean up after themselves I teach them to feed their animals and help around the house but wow that is almost more exhausting then just doing it myself. And are there any sugestions for things I can do about headaches? Latley I get them when the kids are going crazy or I'm around a lot if people I'm pretty sure it's because I'm stressed but does anyone have ideas in how to not feel like I'm going to freak out? I have tried exercise and it works when I can to it uninterrupted. It's just hard I guess not being able to get my husband to understand some alone time would do wonders. I have been feeling mean grumpy everything bothers me. I need ideas on how to get out of my rut. I'm trying as many things as possible. Sorry for the rant!