Is it wrong to tell your 7 year old that he can't brng his stuffed animal to school?

Alison - posted on 09/04/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My 7 yr old wanted to bring his stuffed animal that he sleeps with to school, I told him the other kids would make fun of him and think he was a baby, is that wrong?

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Tina - posted on 09/04/2009

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What I tell my kids is that school is not the place to bring your toys. And that there is a possiblity they may lose them, and talk about how sad they would be if they lost the toy b/c it was left behind or taken by someone else. School is a place where they are supposed to learn, and at home they can play. Would also ask them why they think they need thier toy, if they want the toy b/c they're afraid, would help them know that other kids are too, and act on good ways to overcome those fears, like setting up playdates with other kids, etc.

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Anna Liz - posted on 06/20/2013

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YES and no because if he brings his stuffted animal to school the teacher will take it.

Emma - posted on 09/04/2009

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my daughter is 3yrs old and i told her that because she was starting the big skool (nursery) that she wouldnt be able to take her favourite item to skool anymore incase the little boy/girl would take it home with them by mistake. i know that each child is different and it is harder the longer they have been used to this, but honestly she was fine and i hope that starting at her age she will just accept it in the future but if it arises again i will explain again as she is only 3 and she might forget. but good luck, there has been a few good ideas from the moms on here, emma

Alison - posted on 09/04/2009

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Thanks for all the good advise, I should have explained that it could get lost or something, I guess at 7am that was the only thing I could think of, but I don't agree with lying to him and telling him that his other stuffed animals will miss it or something, he knows his stuffed animals don't have feelings, and I'm not trying to toughen him up either, I just didn't want him to get made fun of, kids can be cruel.

Diane - posted on 09/04/2009

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Although I don't agree with the method he was told, i do agree he's too old to take those things to school. I often have to convince my kids that it was their idea and not push peer pressure on them, especially so early. A well worded "you're a big kid now" speech could help.

Sherri - posted on 09/04/2009

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It's never wrong to tell your childern the truth. It a mad world out there and we as mother's need be honest with our childern because they trust us!

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My 7 (8 this month) yr old son did the same thing... I tell him that the stuffed animal is going to watch over the house or i'll have him put it in my car before the bus comes so "the stuffed animal" will stay with me all day. It really seems to work. Once in awhile you get those days that "nothing is going right' and so those days I let him take it to school if it stays in his bookbag all day. but I really try to avoid that if at all possible. Good Luck.

Shelsea - posted on 09/04/2009

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you could also tell him that if he takes it to school he might lose it or someone might take it or ruin it. if he has other stuffed animals tell him that the other ones would miss that one and that it has to stay to keep his friends company until he gets home. good luck!

Jill - posted on 09/04/2009

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Quoting Teresa:

I dont think we need to toughen up our kids at 7 years old. You couldve told him something else so he wouldnt have to feel bad. Stuffed animals at school wouldnt be good because of all the germs and head lice at school. You might have told him that someone else could decide to take the animal home or that it needs stay home and guard his bed. Why does he want to take it? Are other kids taking theirs or is there something bothering him? You might wanna talk to him about it. Good luck.


 




I completely agree that "we do not need to toughen up our kids at 7 years old"...I agree though you might suggest he bring a different toy due to the germs at school and keep it in his school bag so he knows it is there for the comfort.  There is nothing wrong with him wanting to bring a toy to school...I am sure that all other kids wish they could bring theirs too!  I have told my son that someone else might want to take it and I like the idea of telling him it will guard his bed when he's gone...so bringing something else to keep in his school bag might help instead...



 



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Megan - posted on 09/04/2009

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as a substitute teacher, I can tell you that when little kids (and older) think it's OK to have toys in school, those toys can be very disruptive. Someone wants to hold it, someone tries to take it, the child plays with it instead of paying attention. Toys in general are not a great idea. However, if your sone is having anxiety in school or has some other reason for wanting it close, letting him keep it i his backpack (and sending a note to the teacher to explain the situation!) is OK.

Teresa - posted on 09/04/2009

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I dont think we need to toughen up our kids at 7 years old. You couldve told him something else so he wouldnt have to feel bad. Stuffed animals at school wouldnt be good because of all the germs and head lice at school. You might have told him that someone else could decide to take the animal home or that it needs stay home and guard his bed. Why does he want to take it? Are other kids taking theirs or is there something bothering him? You might wanna talk to him about it. Good luck.

Ashley - posted on 09/04/2009

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I think what you done was the right thing to do. Kids these days can be so mean and cruel, your honesty with him would be better for him to accept than what other kids may have to say.. If he's being made fun of school won't be as enjoyable for him!

Susan - posted on 09/04/2009

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Our school doesn't allow any stuffed animals to school, only because of the threat of head lice and other germs. I would on the other hand instead of telling him his friends would think he was a baby, try to explain that his animal might get sick or get head lice and lose all hair. My 6 and 8 year olds both sleep with stuffed animals, but do not take them to school. Hope I helped. :)

Erin - posted on 09/04/2009

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I think its important to be honest about how harsh other kids can be. Kids can be brutal about stuff like that, and if you hadnt told him no its kind of like setting him up to let kids teach him a lesson his mom should have. Good job :) I have to pat Max down before he goes to school every morning

Sharon - posted on 09/04/2009

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You did the right thing, kind of harshly but it was honest. You might also point out that someone might steal it or foul it just to be mean. Then he'll be happy to leave it at home.

Lucy - posted on 09/04/2009

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honestly i think you did the right thing because that's probably what would happen. You could say that probably lots of other kids sleep with their stuffed toys but they don't take them to school xxxx

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It is not wrong, but my 6 year old struggles with the same attachment. It is not always the same toy, but most days I ask him if it is ok for Optimus/SpiderMan to go to work with me or dad to play. Before I came up with that trick I worked with his kindergarten teacher to have him ask permission to bring his stuffed toys to school and let them stay in his backpack until the end of the day when he could share them.

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