Is it wrong to want to have a second baby shower for a second child?

Brittany - posted on 03/31/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am currently 11 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have a 16 month old son who I did have a minor baby shower for, well I was wanting to have a baby shower for this child if it is a little girl since I do not have anything for a little girl and I really do not want to go out and spend a fortune on little girl clothes. But every time I mention it to my mom she says well Brittany, traditionally you do not have two baby showers... If it wrong to want to have a second baby shower if I am having a little girl?


Sophia - posted on 03/31/2013




Asking for one is...having someone throw it for you isn't. There is something now that they call Baby Sprinkles. Basically, is a smaller version of a shower. Gifts are much smaller and cheaper (often clothes).

However, generally, most people will end up giving you gifts anyway. When they come and visit, more often than not, they will ask if you need anything or the baby and that's about the time to say what it is you need.

Your mom is right, traditionally people do not have 2 baby showers. Predominantly because the whole purpose of a baby shower is to "shower" the mom with gifts to get them ready for motherhood. By the time you have a 2nd baby, you are now an experienced mother and ideally does not require assistance in getting "ready".

The best thing to do if you don't end up with a Sprinkle, is to join your local Mom's groups. You should be able to trade or purchase 2nd hand little girl's clothing for considerably less. We all know how quickly infants grow and so more often than not, you will find items that are barely used or even brand new. You could also try the option that I used. I'm a first time mom but I really felt strongly about avoiding drowning in baby clothes. I think I only bought about 4 outfits and a few newborn outfits. The few outfits I bought were all neutral colours. I'm thinking ahead. In case, I have a girl as my next child, I can use these as hand me downs. I had a few family members that have had boys that kept many of their clothes. I received boxes and boxes of hand me downs. Too many boxes to be honest that I've had to refuse quite a bit of them. Then as my son start to outgrow, I kept the ones that are still in great condition and reboxed them, labelled by age and getting them ready for the next baby.

Overtime, between birthdays, Christmas etc. you'll receive more anyways. Just let the people know that you prefer clothing.

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