Is mother brainwashing daughter or is it ok at 11 yrs old not to want to come to dads house ????

Shaunaugh - posted on 11/15/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies < so here is the scoop my husband and i have been together 8 years now , we have 2 boys and are happy and content . My partner has a daughter from a previous relationship that ended when she was 2. Its been a rollacoaster with the mother back and forth to court , to trial ...... etc anyways 2 years ago we asked for 4 extra days a month because everything seemed good , we live basically on same street , our son was going to be going to same school as sister ...blah blah , THEN WAM the mother picked up and moved 2 hours away . !!! that was a battl;e eventually my hubby and the ex met at atTim hortons and wrote up a agreement anout visittation and pick up drop off location and times . So roughly in the past 2 years the daughter has onlyu been here 12 times . my husband and her were very close , mind you her mother has since then been married and have another child . So the last time we have seen the daughter is May 12 ..... it is now going on Christmas ....... we have tried communicating via email but barely get responses , my husband has gotten emails from the mother NOT to phone house .... we sent a email regarding christmas plans asking if she was planning on coming .... response was not sure i have to think about it !!! OMG at 11 years old who would not want to see there family , is this child brainwashed or is she just growing up ?????

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Jodi - posted on 11/15/2013

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Also, I am not suggesting he phone the mother, I am suggesting he phone for a chat with his daughter. He is entitled to do that. And if it isn't in the court order, he CAN get that put in.

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2013

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How do you know it is the daughter emailing? Sorry, you should have been doing something before now. The mother needs to back off. If the court order says she needs to be at your house, then that's where her mother should be encouraging her to go. I would have filed contempt years ago.

Shaunaugh - posted on 11/15/2013

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Thanks for responding , he has phoned but the mother always calls police says we are harassing . We have been to lawyer but have been down that road for years , and when we have threaten to go back to court , the daughter emails us back saying dad I will just tell them I don't want to go . The mom is showing her emails between her dad and herself . Should we be trying more or let her come to us years down the road ?

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2013

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Time to talk to a lawyer. Also, why is your husband not phoning her? Communication by email only and not actually having a discussion with his child on the phone is a little cold in my opinion. If he were a truly interested parent, he'd be calling her each week even if he can't see her.

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