Altina - posted on 12/07/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I'm not a mother, but my boyfriend has 2 young children from a previous relationship, aged 3 and 4. I think his ex- girlfriend still loves him and wants to be with him but he insists that he doesn't want her. My problem is, though, that he seems to bring her up often and I just found out recently that they are texting and I'm pretty sure that they're not discussing visitation agreements. Another thing, she told him that he couldn't go over to her aprtment to see the kids if he was still dating me, so he's been lying to her and saying that we're not together anymore. This really bothers me because although I believe that he should definitely do anything to see his children, I don't think he should have to lie about our relationship status just to do so. His ex is so manipulating and the sick part is that he just goes along with it. He knows that she wants him back and all he says is "well, I gotta do what I gotta do to see my kids." Am I wrong for being upset? He already has visitation every Wedneday and every other weekend but he says he doesn't have the money to drive back and forth because she claims she can't afford to provide half the transportation (even though the agrement states that she has to) so he wants to be able to go over so he can tuck them in at night and if she knows about us then she won't let him. Is it just me or does she definitely want him back?? It just doesn't mak any sense to me. I'm not even there so why does it matter if I'm dating him or not? I don't want to seem insensitive but he needs to put his ex in her place instead of letting her run our relationship. Any thoughts?