Shiela - posted on 10/08/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
i am the eldest of 3 children (i have a sister and a brother after me). we grew up like orphans and were accomodated in relatives house before our marriage. All of us are settled abroad. The problem is my sister who gives me silent treatment for years together over a verbal disagreement. She never returns calls/emails/sms. If she picks up the phone by mistake, then indecently she bangs the phone down. Her silent treatment ranges for years. all of a sudden one she calls me and says that it was her husband who asked her to cut off all relations with me (actually the disagreement was between me and her). I forgave her and began speaking to her on the same day. She is good (very very sweet to me) for the next few months and suddenly one day over another disagreement she starts her silent treatment. This has affected me a lot. She she was a kid, it was me who took her to school, helped her homework etc as we did not have parents. Now that she is married and settled (i am married and settled too), her behavior has radically changed. I tried my level best to call her (nearly 20-25 calls/sms) but no response. What do I do when she comes back to me in future with a cock and bull story for a patch up? Is her behavior a normal or a abnormal behavior? Is she suffering from a borderline disorder (she was blaming me for all the good things i did for my brother and other relatives). Earlier after establishing relationship with me she puts me and my family in pedestal for sometime to the extent of getting nostalgic. Slowly she changes and the talks becomes monosyllables. If there is any disagreement, then BANG the relationship goes into a silent treatment stage (wherein I suffer a lot).