Mommabird - posted on 12/30/2014 ( 34 moms have responded )
Sorry if this ends up a little lengthy, but in order for anyone to give advice on this subject its best to get all necessary facts first.
Some of you may already know from a few of my previous posts and comments that my husband and I separated for 9 mths and reconciled in May of 2013. During our separation he had a one night stand(on New Years Eve) and she became pregnant with twins. They were born Sept 2013. We all attempted to make the best of the situation and be adults about it. We've all been getting along(except one argument that only lasted a week) and everything was agreed upon regarding her custody and his visitation, and what he pays in child support. No lawyers, no paperwork. First she agreed that when they turned 1 she would give him joint custody with rotating weeks and no child support, if things were still going good. Their 1st birthday came and everything had been going smoothly, no issues, but she changed her mind. Said she wasnt ready for them to be gone a whole week at a time yet. Ok...so we kept what we had which was every other weekend and Wed-fri on the opposite week. Almost half the time already but he's still paying her child support. We let it go and left it at that. Ok theyre 15 mths now and we've had them 3 days a week and every holiday besides mothers day this whole time. Well my husbands schedule changed at work after Christmas which made him work opposite weekends he was working. Which means the weekends theyre here he's working 12 hr shifts and they only see him 6 hours out of the whole 3 days theyre here. So he asked if she would switch weekends so he had more time with them. She said No. She has a 6 yr old that goes to his dads on the same weekend and she would "rather keep it the same so that she has a weekend to herself to regain her sanity from work and kids"...Im quoting her exact words. To me, it seems a little selfish. It seems like her alone time is more important than the girls spending time with their daddy. Thats parenthood! You sacrifice a little ME time for your children's benefit. Am I just overreacting,? My husband has the same view as I do and he's planning on sitting down with her and trying to come to some kind of compromise. but I dont see her changing her schedule...