Is our sleeping pattern a problen?

Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son and I sleep from 6am to around 4-5pm and he takes a little nap around 8pm. Is that bad? The father is trying to say he should be sleeping at night, but our son is still getting enough sleep actually we are both getting enough sleep. I am the one who is with our son 24/7(We go visit his father like once every month) so I feel as if our son should be on a sleeping schedule that works for us, for now.

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I don't think it's a natural sleep pattern. He should be seeing daylight/sunshine and going outside -- even if it's cold and even if you don't have a lot of friends. He should be bundled up properly and taken out to see the world, even if it's just your interactions with shop clerks at the grocery store.



Vitamin D is extremely important for health -- more and more research is showing this. Do you give him Vitamin D3 drops at least?

Elfrieda - posted on 01/13/2012

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That's interesting. I'm just trying to wrap my brain around it! :)

So do you work an off-shift, or are you just a night-owl?



When do you and your son get out to see people and things? Don't you get lonely, or do lots of people you know keep the same hours? How do you play outside? By moonlight?



I have a 2 year old, too, and I think now is the time to start training them into what you want their kid habits to be, but if it's too hard I don't think there's any harm in waiting for another year or so.

Elfrieda - posted on 01/13/2012

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How old? It sounds weird to me, but if he's a baby and it works for you why not?

Amanda - posted on 01/13/2012

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I think I have to agree with your sons father. I think he should be sleeping at night and not during the day, unless of course there is a reason, like work or something that means you have to be sleeping during the day.

At 2 do you not think that your son should be making the most of playing outside or at the park, and socializing with other kids??

Surely by sleeping when everyone else is going about their days you are missing out on interacting with other adults too?? What about social events like birthday parties, play dates and family gatherings???

How do you do day to day things like shopping, day trips stuff like that??

Just seems like your son is missing out on things that alot of 2 yr olds see as every day life. I know my 2 and 3 yr olds would go crazy if they never got out of the house and played with other kids, and I would too

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Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012

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and that time was just rough a time. . its not always 6am to 4pm. . sometimes well most of the time is 3am to 2pm . . or 1am to 2pm and he still takes naps. . I looked it up and I could not find anything saying it is effecting his health.



Maybe I spoil my munchkin way to much and let him sleep when he wants to. . but eh that's just me. Every mom is different, and please do not call me selfish I almost died for my son. . I am not selfish =/

Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012

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is there a link that proves that? and I am not just thinking about myself. When he use to sleep during the day I had no problem with it. I would get up when he got up. and you work in daycare you should know not every child is the same just because you think your child couldn't does not mean mine couldn't.



and also my mom works night so when I use to go to work(lost my job a week ago) during the day she would watch him. They would both be sleeping or he would up and she would be up, really tired though.



I am taking in what everyone is saying, but the only thing i am getting it is wrong for him socially. how is it wrong mentally? he still gets sleep he is not missing out on sleep. . .and he is still just as active as any other toddler I see maybe even more haha yes he a hyper one

Laura - posted on 01/13/2012

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Physically n emotionally it bad for him he isn't learning proper way of life!!! Honestly it seems ur thinking of urself and not thinking of ur sons best interests I not trying to sound rude but u said there no reason for YOU to be up during the day because u have no friends!! I work I'm child care n I have a 2 yr old n I don't understand u saying it b easy to turn his sleeping pattern around again but no it won't u said urself u get cranky n wat not how do u think it b for a 2 yr old!! This is very very bad for him!!

Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012

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That's what I am really asking, is it harming him?



so far what you guys have mentioned does not sound like it is harming him. . . i'm not thinking socially either. . .

Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012

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it isn't hard for him to change his sleep pattern. and possibly during the summer it will change again because he can go outside. and I don't have money for mommy and me he socializes with his aunt who is young and his grandmother. I live with my mom, for now, and I'm sure mommy and me cost money, which I do not have at the moment.



what I am trying to say is, as long as he is getting the amount of sleep he suppose to get what is the harm?

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2012

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I understand that this sleep schedule works for you but realistically you are training your son to sleep when he should be alert and learning, it will not be long before he has to go to school and will need to be switched around and this will not be an easy task if he has had a few years of being backwards in his sleep cycles. I understand that you are not really social but your son needs to be socialized with other children in order to learn proper behaviors in different situations. I would seriously look for mom and me type groups in your area that will allow both you and your child to socialize as you to need stimulation from other people and not just your child. Also for the sleep issue I would consult your doctor as I am sure there is something that they can do to help you with that. My son has issues with turning his brain off at night as well and we give him melotonin to help him sleep it is a herb so completely harmless,helps him sleep and does not knock you out so that you won't hear your little one if he needs you. I strongly suggest that you consider changing your schedule and get out their make some new friends and rejoin society.

Laqasia - posted on 01/13/2012

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I don't really socialize no friends. . . and its way too cold to go to the park. As far as shopping if I'm not buying anything online I still go shopping. What I am trying to say is it works for us.



and I do get lonely, but I don't have any friends so being up during that time to visit friends would be pointless without any friends. When I have some we were on a regular sleep at night and up during the day.



Yes I am a night owl and no matter how hard i try I cannot force myself to go to sleep my mind does not shut off and when i don't get any sleep I am crank very cranky. and not very pleasant to be around.

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