Is selfish to feel that you need to leave your family and live alone for some long time?


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I agree with the other ladies--it is not selfish to FEEL you need to leave (we ALL feel like that at times), but it is selfish to actually leave them for an extended time.

That said, maybe you need a short break, and it is certainly NOT SELFISH to take a short break from your kids. Short breaks will not hurt your relationship with your kids, and they will give you a HUGE boost emotionally. Weekly coffee with a couple of girlfriends, a book club, whatever you want, just make sure it's something you enjoy and don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it.

Even a weekend away is okay--I recently spent a weekend in the mountains with 2 of my girlfriends, just the girls. It was wonderful. I missed my boys, and I was eager to get home, but I needed the time away. This week has been CRAZY busy, but that time away gave me the perspective I needed to cherish this time, despite the craziness of it.

It sounds like you need some time away. Don't leave for months, but consider adding some "You time" into your weekly schedule or taking a weekend away. It's good to do that.


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Dove - posted on 04/24/2013




Feeling like you need to get away is not selfish. Getting occasional short breaks is not selfish. Leaving your family to live alone for a long time IS selfish. Don't have a family if you don't plan on being there for them.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/24/2013




It is understandable that most of us feel like this sometimes, but it is something totally different to act on, and abandon your family. So yes, leaving your family for a long period of time is deserting them, and is extremely selfish. If you have done this, don't expect a relationship with your children in the future.

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