Is that rude?

Monique - posted on 07/22/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My Husband's aunt made a comment, though it may be true, I feel it was rude in nature. After a nice family dinner she says to me. "Just so you know, we will always love Joaquin (my son) more than you." I was so dumbfounded. I couldn't even respond, I wanted to say something like 'ditto' but I just kept walking and ignored the rest of her nonsense, my husband didn't say anything on my behalf either.
My husband and I are from different cultures, that's the only explanation I have for myself on why she made that comment. I feel she goes out of her way to be rude to me. I'm not sure how I will react or what to say when I see her next. I am a person who ignores negativity but I will not let her walk all over me. What would you do in my situation, should I say something when I see her again or should I just be happy that she clarified that she loves my son more?

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It was rude. I would let *that* one slide because there really is no point in bringing it up again in the future, but I would say something in response if she ever says something like that again. For example "Yes, I will always love him more than anyone else on Earth too, I'm glad you feel the same."
If you want to be more direct, you can say "His dad and I will always love him more than we love you as well," but that does border on just as rude as her statement, and you don't want to stoop to her level. Keep yourself on the higher road.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2013

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I think you should just let it go, but yes, it was rude. However, don't let it get to you. What prompted her to say anything at all about loving her son? What was the context of the comment?

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Jodi - posted on 07/23/2013

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Ah, ok, I misunderstood. But yeah, I'd still let it go. She probably didn't MEAN to hurt your feelings. She's probably just tactless.

Monique - posted on 07/23/2013

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She was referring to my son when she said "We will always love him more then you..." lol Who says that?
I'm letting it go by posting about it, I'm still just trying to understand where she is coming from. We had a nice dinner, I guess she was trying to express how much she loves my son by hurting my feelings at the same time. He's is such a precious, handsome and happy baby, of course he's much more lovable then his mama! But for her to say that just was vindictive I think. Oh well, may her true colors shine. I know my son wont be raised that rude. : )

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