Is the stepfather have a right to discipline a stepdaughter ?

Louie - posted on 01/13/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My husband always want to control the discipline or any decision to my daughter ( he is not the biological father ). Don't even ask my opinion or decision . Do you think it's right to do that?

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Dove - posted on 01/13/2016

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If you are in an abusive marriage... please leave. You and your daughter deserve to be free.

Where is her bio father? Has your husband adopted her? If not then he shouldn't have any legal claim to her and you can both be free. 10 years is a LONG time. Keep going to the counseling yourself. Is your daughter in counseling as well?

Dove - posted on 01/13/2016

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Ah... seeing as how you've been married almost a decade that does make somewhat of a difference as far as his involvement goes, but it is still SO important that the two of you are on the same page. Perhaps some couple's counseling would be beneficial at this point.

Dove - posted on 01/13/2016

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Absolutely not. This is YOUR child. Seeing as how the two of you are married... you need to be on the same page about discipline and decisions regarding the child, but if he is doing something to/with your daughter that you do not agree with... you are the 'deciding vote'.

How old is your daughter and how long have you two been married?

Raye - posted on 01/13/2016

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In any marriage, both people should be on the same page with rules and consequences (discipline). You should be able to talk about it, respect the other's opinion, and come to a compromise. I agree with Jodi, that as the natural parent you should have the lead on how your child should be raised. He should talk to you about things he disagrees with, and you should not take offence, but take his opinion in consideration. You should find a method that works for both of you... after all, you may one day have kids together, and you will want to have similar rules and consequences for all kids.

Jodi - posted on 01/13/2016

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No, that's not ok. This is something YOU should be taking the lead on, and, as another adult in the home, he takes a backseat role. However, when you married, this should have been part of the discussion.....what was discussed with regard to your daughter? And is her father in the picture?

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Louie - posted on 01/14/2016

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were in the same boat in that issue. And my marriage are in sinking like a titanic, too abuse that I suffered from the past years. I thought he will change or I will change...I can't show my affection to him anymore even though I know I still love him...And now, he wants to control everything, discipline or any decision to my child.

Michelle - posted on 01/14/2016

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My husband is the same.He feels since he is helping raise him he has full say in everything including discipline.I dont want to not support his decisions as a parent because we have 2 boys together but my oldest son is very emotional at times and i feel maybe i should be the one to discipline him am I wrong?

Louie - posted on 01/14/2016

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Thank you Raye. I need a financial and emotional help very much. Since I worked only part time 3x a week ( 15 hrs). I can't afford everything from housing, etc. I will find some help in the church I guess.

Raye - posted on 01/14/2016

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If you need financial or emotional help in leaving, see if there are any women's shelters in your area (even if you don't need them for shelter). They may have resources to help you. You can also inquire at church or community outreach centers to see if they can help.

You have to get yourself and your child into a better, more healthy, environment.

Louie - posted on 01/14/2016

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She started counselling only last Tuesday. And I still continue seeing the counsellor .
Just like last night mu husband asking me when I'm going to leave ? Blood is thicker than water isn't ? He keep on reminding me this phrase, and I said to him YES- blood is thicker than water. I think your right, it's time for me to be free (me and my daughter).
My daughter is not adopted at all..

Louie - posted on 01/13/2016

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we been doing a counselling last Nov until now but my husband don't want to attend anymore. For 10 years I suffered from abusive relationship. And I thought or I'm hoping he will change. The way he control my life and my daughter is sickening me.

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