Is there a way to politely turn down a playdate?

Amy - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is 5 and there are a couple of girl's mothers in his pre-school class who have approached/mentioned possibly getting the kids together for a playdate. Unfortunately my son does not want to have a playdate with these particular classmates. So far they've just been mentioning and we havent exchanged numbers or anything but with school ending next week I'm sure it's going to happen. As a mom would you try and convince your child to have one playdate outside of school before they decide they don't want to play with them?


Kate CP - posted on 06/10/2011




Yea, I might say "Try it once and if you don't have fun we won't do it again". But if you really don't want to try it something like "Our summer schedule is really full so I don't know how available we'll be" would be good.

Kylie - posted on 06/10/2011




Well, I have been in this position and even if my daughter isn't close friends with the child at school, on a one to one basis in a home setting they always have fun and get along. I think it's it's good to encourage kids to get to know all their class mates. Close friendships change throughout the year and you dont want to burn bridges with parents. It's also good for you to get to know some parents and after school play dates are perfect for that. If it's a group of kids and your son is not comfortable then i can understand your hesitation. Maybe you could organise a few one on one play dates first.


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Amy - posted on 06/10/2011




Thank you both for your responses, its not me, my son isn't a willing participant! Lol, but I think I'll tell him that we'll meet them once and if he really doesn't have fun we won't have to have another one. He says they both bother him because they never leave his side, whenever he turns around they're right there.

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