Is there any moms that has expierenced a child loss?

Brandy - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




I miss my daughter so much and wish that she was here with me , she is in a better place i know but there is some days that I just can barely make it, I just feel like laying in bed and sleeping life away but I have 3 other kids that is here to I just want to know does it get any better she had a rare heart condition and had surgery at a week old and died at 3 months , she passed away May 14 , 2006 please I just need someone to talk to.

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Gussie - posted on 02/17/2013




Nobody understands the lost of a child unless you been through it. Now I know. My child had Sarcoidosis.. There is no therapy that can help me withe lost of my child.

Gussie - posted on 02/17/2013




Today makes a month that my 23 year daughter died. I feel so lost and
So sad. I feel like I can not go on . Wouldn't it be nice if they could talk to you and say whether they are okay, or where they are ect. I believe I could deal better. Nobody is allowed to tell you how long you have to grieve or how long! Take as long as you like. I don' even know when I will be able to go in her room. People that do not want to listen they were not real anyway.

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Have you tried a support group? It might help to talk with people who understand the pain and are able to listen to you talk without trying to make you feel better? A small group of my friends and I have experienced painful outcomes with our second pregnancies and it really helped that we could talk with each other and know that what felt was normal and that we each understood how the others felt. Talking and sharing can help us to be able to carry on. One of my friends had lost her child and she found a great strength in being able to talk about her little one and the grief she felt.
I'm really sorry for the loss you have suffered and although you can never "get over" the loss of your child you can learn to live with with it, I promise this.

Raechel - posted on 01/22/2010




Losing someone or something you love is very painful. After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, and guilt. Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. While these feelings can be frightening and overwhelming, they are normal reactions to loss. Accepting them as part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel what you feel is necessary for healing.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve — but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain. You can get through it! Grief that is expressed and experienced has a potential for healing that eventually can strengthen and enrich life.

Abbie - posted on 01/22/2010




I have never lost a baby at that age, I have lost 4 pregnancies all which were all very different in their own ways. All I can say is if you are feelign like laying in bed all day; then I will bet you are depressed. Very normal after the loss you have gone through. Some times its a bit mind over matter, What i mean is if you can't get over this on your own mental power then you need to seek help. Again takes a stronger person to ask for help then to just let life slip by. Call your doctor. Also your clinic probably offers some sort of grief counsiling. You can look on line here also.

Feel free to email me, I am willing to listen and talk about this. Many people don't understand the emptiness felt after the loss of a child.

Stacy - posted on 01/22/2010




Hello Im terribly sorry for your loss we lost our daughter in March of last year she was two months shy of her third birthday. The picture on my profile is her. You have been through this longer than me so i cant tell you if it gets any easier but i know what keeps me going is i have a 5 year old son who is autistic and he lost his baby sissy/best friend they were very close and took care of eachother she did not have any condition she had Pneumonia that we didnt catch cause she didnt show any signs that she was sick until the afternoon of the night she passed away and even at that it was a deep cough that started around 4 in the afternoon then a lowgrade fever about 6. We had no idea she was as sick as she was she was acting normal and playing and all up until i saw about 4 that she seemed to not feel good but thought she was just taking cold. It still breaks my heart to hear my son ask about her he mostly says Kayga gone but sometimes hell ask wheres Kayga. Her name was Makayla but the closest he could come to that was Kayga. I hope that I can be of help but i would like to keep in touch with you cause i know i can always use some help sometimes from someone who knows your pain.

Kendra - posted on 01/21/2010




Oh Brandy...I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot say that I have been through this experience, but your post broke my heart. A parent should never have to lose their child. I don't know if you are seeing a counselor or talking to a pastor, but that might help to make things easier to deal with. Sometimes it's good to talk to someone 'outside' of the situation. They don't try to tell you you'll be fine...they try to help you deal with the problem. You are in my prayers...Hugs.

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