Is there really such thing as the "middle child" syndrome?

Rita - posted on 07/02/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm an expectant mom. I have a 3 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. My daughter is such a joy and really relishes being the "baby" of the family. She'll soon be displaced though as the youngest and am wondering how she'll take it. She is aware that a new little brother or sister is coming but doesn't quite grasp what that means for her. I've heard of the middle child syndrome and have seen my own siblings struggle with being somewhere in the middle. Is this a legitimate concern? Should I proactively start taking her to a therapist?

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Onetraeh - posted on 07/02/2013

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I think middle child syndrome is real;my sister who's in the middle of five is still constantly looking for attention even to her own detriment these many years later as an adult.definitely your parenting style could be all the difference tho

Firebird - posted on 07/02/2013

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There is a very easy way to avoid middle child syndrome. Pay attention to your middle child. Equal time with you, equal attention spread between all your children to the best of your ability will basically eliminate middle child syndrome. I am a middle child and if my parents followed this simple advice, they would have had less trouble from me.

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Rita - posted on 07/03/2013

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That makes sense. I will definitely love her the same and even try to shower her with more attention once the baby comes. I've heard that having a special day set aside for her and I can be helpful as well.Thanks for sharing your story about being a middle child Firebird, and your experience with it as well Onetraeh. I'd love to hear from other middle children too about their experiences.

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