Is this weird?

Aaron - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 and has a fascination with my skin. If my arms or legs are exposed he is rubbing them. In the morning he sneaks into bed with me and my husband and he lifts my shirt to see my back and then lifts his shirt so he can touch his belly to my back. If I sit down and the back of my shirt rises so you see the lower part of my back he comes over and does the belly thing or tries kissing my back. It makes me a little uncomfortable, and wondering if this is normal. Any suggestions?

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Jackie - posted on 11/13/2009

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Its perfectly normal!! My son up until a year ago did all those things. Except he liked unexposed skin. So if it was covered with clothing he wanted to touch it. He would lay down for a nap with me and literally stick his hand up my top. And I guess out of fear I would roll away while he was sleeping or he would move his hand; he would tuck his hand into the middle of my bra to hold it in place. Don't make a big deal out of it and it will stop when they are ready to stop. He is just feels close to you when he has skin to skin contact. I of course made it clear it wasn't acceptable in public. He was around your sons age and was upset in the mall. I picked him up and instantly the hand went down my collar of my shirt. I just pulled it out and told him not here. He would also run up behind me and stick his hands up the back of my shirt in public too. I just explained to him that everyone else doesn't want to see mommys bra so please don't pull up/down my shirt. I promise its normal and he will out grow it.

User - posted on 11/13/2009

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that is cute but i can understand u feel a bit weird about it...maybe if u tried cuddling him or massaging him naked? maybe he needs the close contact?

Chris - posted on 11/13/2009

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When my daughter was born I had to do skin to skin contact with her to get her temperature up and now at 2.5 she still likes the feel my skin. Could this just be a comfort thing.Try not to let him know your a bit uncomfortable with it, he could just like the closeness. Good luck.

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Perfectly normal behavior.. enjoy it while you can, its not long till they dont want any cuddles.. LOL

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Sarah - posted on 09/17/2016

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Suzanne, this post is really old. Second, while I get his behavior is endearing, at 3, I would agree with your husband that he should not be grabbing your breast and shouting "boobies" . Snuggling and cuddling is fine, but at 3 it is time to teach him not to touch mom's privates.

Gina - posted on 11/15/2009

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Boys are very affectionate and skin, moles, boobs, hair, boogers, everything is just interesting. I think they think that you are part of them and they own every part of you too, especially if breastfed. I had to stop showering with my older son because he wanted to wash my bum, not rude or anything it was just what he could reach and it is just a part of me. About 3 they seem to have a thing with licking, it is really gross when you get a lick instead of a kiss, or you are sitting watching tv and they come up and lick your arm. I get a bit cranky because it feels gross but eventually they will grow out of it. They are not being rude or sexual, it is just funny for them. The touching is just affection, but you are right they do need boundaries. Maybe some cheek to cheek loves. Or tickles with lots of rasberries and kisses. Actually what is funny is my 3 year old doesn't think any part of you naked is rude except the butt crack, for some reason this is hilarious to him.

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My son is 2 and also has some fascination with my skin. He likes to pet me and point out my freckles and moles. It seems he has less of a thing for my arms, since they're exposed most of the time, but he likes to touch the skin on my legs. If it makes you uncomfortable, it's time to start teaching about boundaries. But if you can, find a way to give him som skin to skin contact that is comfortable for you. It's completely normal, and he'll eventually grow out of it.

Susan - posted on 11/13/2009

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my 16 month old does it also, when i am holding him he will stick his hand down my shirt and under my bra and then leave his hand there.he wasn't breast fed . it's hard though when we are out and wants to do it.lol

Chrystal - posted on 11/13/2009

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I don't think this is weird. If it makes you uncomfortable it is time to let him know that there are some bounderies that he needs to follow. gently tell him that he is getting to old to touch mommie like that. He is only touching your back and belly right? You might want to ask his dr about that. It might just b that (i don't know if you did this) when you were getting him dressed as he was growing up and would give him razberries on his tummy. he would remember this. Maybe you could ask him why he does this. you might be surprised that he may tell you.

Chrystal - posted on 11/13/2009

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my Daughter was the same way because she was breastfed. and she would like the close contact with skin. he will eventually understand .

Chrystal - posted on 11/13/2009

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I don't think this is weird. If it makes you uncomfortable it is time to let him know that there are some bounderies that he needs to follow. gently tell him that he is getting to old to touch mommie like that. He is only touching your back and belly right? You might want to ask his dr about that. It might just b that (i don't know if you did this) when you were getting him dressed as he was growing up and would give him razberries on his tummy. he would remember this. Maybe you could ask him why he does this. you might be surprised that he may tell you.

Elanor - posted on 11/13/2009

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Was he breastfed? Either way this is perfectly normal, my son is 4.5 and still does it occasionlly, asking for 'skin'. He used to suck his thumb, with his hand on my back or belly. Infact skin to skin contact is very important, in modern societies children don't get as much especially once passed toddlerhood. If you don't feel comfortable, move his hand to a place that you don't mind, and tell him, that's a good place for skin, and give him a hug.

My son grew out of it (esp when I was pregnant) but has the odd bit of skin now and then.

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