Brianna - posted on 07/08/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )
I am 19 years old and I just had a baby who is now 4 weeks old. My sons father is 21 years old and stays 2 hours away (because he is in college). My problem with him is I feel like he goes about things the wrong way, for example when I was pregnant he would go days without talking to me or checking on me. That use to hurt my feelings and ultimately I knew he would do the same thing once my son was born. Now that he is here he does the same thing! He goes 2 or 3 days without checking on him, which really pisses me off. The only way they can communicate during the week is skype or FaceTime, and he really only has weekends to see him (which I feel like he should take advantage of because once school start back in August he will not be able to see him for the first few months because of football).
One weekend he came to see him friday but left the next day to go "out of town" and come to find out he went to a college town a couple hours away for go drink with his friends & with his ex who is also his so called friend.
Each time I tell myself to just leave him alone its like I get sucked back in when he finally does decide to check on him. I have tried to tell him how it makes me feel when he doesnt check on him, but he sees nothing wrong with it. I honestly wish I could remove myself from the situation but I know it will take time.
are his actions wrong or am I just overreacting? & what would you do if you were in my shoes?
Side note: My childs father & I are not together & never have been.