is up-rooting my family worth it?

Toni - posted on 08/04/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




i am a full time college student who is studying biology. im coming to a close on my associates and want to go to a university to study marine biology, the problem is all of the schools that offer it are out of state, which means i have to up-root me and my 6yr. im not sure i can do it or if it is even possible to be a full time student and parent in a place with no family support to fall back on. now i feel like ive wasted time getting into a degree field that i cant pursue. are their any moms out there that has faced this or is facing this? is it possible?


Chaya - posted on 08/04/2012




I think you should go, but my daughter is preparing for university herself,
When my daughter was five, she and I moved up to the Seattle area from the Portland area, also so I could attend school. My now ex husband stayed in Oregon, we got to see each other one weekend per month, which led to the demise of my marriage.
My daughter got so angry and prickly that I probably should have waited, but it worked out well.
I'd suggest you ask your child what they think of it. If he sees it as an adventure, it would work out better.
I can't count on my family, so I can't address that, but if you have a younger sibling who is willing to go with you, that may be an option, so you can go to school opposite hours of your siblinss school, so you wouldn't need daycare.
Perhaps you can do some of it online or at a closer univesity, and do the rest when your child is 8 or nine, and perhaps more willing to go, or if the child wishes to stay with grandparents, that's fine too, but not if you're going to be thousands of miles away. If you choose that option, get legal custody first.

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