Penny - posted on 11/15/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )
I joined because I dont have any human interaction with people outside my husband or children in the real world. I moved to Australia from Canada almost 4 years ago but I work from home and just have never met any people. I got pregnant and had a baby during this time (my second) and my mom came for 6 months to help so at times it didnt seem so bad, or I was too busy with work and kids to notice. I tried joining 2 mother's groups, but I found them really boring after a while, because no one would hang out outside the groups, and the groups were basically hour long conversations about our kids. Dont get me wrong, I love my kids, but I am with them 24 hours of every day 7 days of every week without end. So talking about them at naseum is not my idea of a vacation.
I always pictured having kids as an extension of my life before kids, lots of friends and family members, barbeques and birthday parties. My kids have never had one birthday party where anyone but myself or my husband was present. Repeat with Christmas, easter.... you get the idea.
My son is 4 now and I cant model human interaction to him. But I also find the idea of going out to meet people incredibly overwhelming right now. I dont get alot of breaks or me time. If I can ever convince my husband to wacth the kids for any length of time I usually just try to get on top o the house work, then pass out on the couch. I feel like I dont know how to talk to people any more. I feel like when I do people are judging me (I know that is probably not the case, it just feels that way)...
My son is in daycare now one day a week. I am going to put my 2 year old in a similar program as well as sports. Just trying to make sure they know how to interact with kids. I was wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation. I moved 7 years ago from one part of Canada to another and made friends relatively quickly. But I worked, went to school and didnt have 2 kids. It feels like at this point I will spend the rest of my life only seeing the mailman, cashiers at grocery stores and the workers at my kid's daycare. Sorry for the pity party, I didn't intend for it to be this pathetic. I thought that maybe I am stuck in cant mode and someone would have some ideas for me that I havent thought of.