Issues w in laws two different worlds

Lola - posted on 07/24/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been married to my husband little over two years now. We have a 13 month old baby and generally we are super happy together.
Excepts issues w his parents. We were brought up completely differently. For example everything and I mean everything in their house is purchased through second hand stores or garage sales.
That does not bother me at all
What bothers me is their cleanliness and way of life. Their house looks like an episode of hoarders and absolutely every single item has value and importance. Cats unorganized a hot mes.
What bothers me the most is that everything that they have purchased for our baby comes from garage sales and is given straight to my baby. MIL will sometimes wash certain items but most of the time old books and toys are given directly into her hands which infuriates me. I can't say anything because out of respect for my husband I don't want to make a scene. I've even gotten an eye roll from FIL because I cleaned few items in front of him. It makes me so sad that their only grandchild can't receive one nice thing from them. I'm not asking for anything outlandish. I really don't know what to do at this point I keep saying that baby really does not need anything but every week we get a bag of stuff like toys straight from the 80s which I don't know to be safe or recalled or whatnot . I keep few clean them etc rest I donate. How do I deal w this I am so tired of looking like a bad guy and I'm afraid it will create problems btw my husband and I
He said that that's the way he grew up and makes it a point to buy nicest thing for our baby because of it. I'm really starting to resent them I'm so tired of cleaning and throwing out stuff Help please
What to do ??


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Kalo Violet - posted on 07/24/2013




Hi I remember when I had my first baby everything had to be new I did not want second hand clothes or toys so I know how you feel this must be really hard? especially when its your in- laws. One thing that I do is if I am unsure about something I pray about it first ask 'GOD' to give you direction he is faithful tell him what you are going through and how you feel I am sorry that you are going through this but I know that if you seek GOD about this you will have your answer, bless you and I am praying for you as well blessings to you and your family.

love & warm regards,

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/24/2013




Well, either tell your inlaws that you don't want second hand stuff, or continue as you've begun.

BTW: There's absolutely nothing wrong with second hand stuff. If you can clean it, you're good. But you don't want it, and that's your right in your house. But at least be adult enough to tell the inlaws, so that they'll quit wasting their money.

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