issues with a grandmother..treats our kids different to her daughters kids

Michelle - posted on 07/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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should i try to explain to kids ?what should i do ?I've said to her about this but she just said i'd expect u to be like that...ermmm gr

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Leonie - posted on 07/13/2012

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It is very hurtful when this happens. My mothers mum- just so hard to even call her grandma, has 10 grandchildren and has only favored 3. It's beyond pathetic!! It was very hard when we were kids because my brother and I would see that we got treated differently. When my brother was a teenager he went and mowed her yard and weeded all her gardens for her, when she came home she gave gifts and treats to our 2 cousins who were there and nothing to my brother, not even a thanks for his hard work! My mum has told us how sorry and ashamed she is of her
Mums behaviour. As adults, the seven of us have nothing to do with her. I have never felt angry at my 3 cousins that she favoured, but have not bonded at all with her. My mum does not play favorites with mine or my brothers children. She never gives one child something and nothing to the other. I would reassure your kids that they have done nothing wrong and maybe reduce your contact with her. Sorry I have been long winded here! It's a topic that has caused great pain in our family and has created big splits amongst the relatives.

Traci - posted on 07/12/2012

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oops I have 2 grand kids by my daughter and i have a gran baby on the way by my son and his girl friend and his girlfriend has a child and is accpted as if he was my sons child i do not believe or like the word step child a child is a child loved the same way as all other children he will get the same gifts at birthdays and xmas as the others

Traci - posted on 07/12/2012

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favorites is wrong all kids should feel accepted by all who come into there lives and when they get older they will spot the favoritism and will rebel i would say either they treat them all the same or choose to not be apart of there life are these kids her grandkids also or stepgrand kidS? either way doesnt matter they are either accepted or they are not and if they cant accept them and treat them no different then you must demand equal treatment or not a part of there life protect them from any negative there will be plenty of that in school and as they get older with pier pressure they shouldnt feel that at home

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