Ashley - posted on 12/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband and I are ready to have a child of our own. I have a wonderful 11 year old step-son from my Husbands first marriage. The first marriage was not meant to be and he hastily got a vasectomy because he didn't want to have any more kids, "with her." They were headed for divorce, but in a last ditch effort to save the marriage he had a reversal, because she really wanted a baby girl. The reversal didn't work and they got a divorce. He always told me he wanted a child with me and would do whatever it took. I knew marrying him that having a baby would be really challenging, but I think I just told myself I would deal with it later. Well it is now "later" and we have spoken to a few fertility clinics and I am just so deflated. One of the best options for us is IVF, where they go in a get his sperm with a needle. I knew it was expensive, but come on! it is like putting a down payment on a house, plus an additional 6k to get his sperm. Both places spoke very highly of a donor, a MUCH CHEEPER option. My husband is open to either...just want to know if anyone has had to make this decision before? any advice? not sure how I feel. Would love to hear some first hand experience.