jealous in-laws

Sara - posted on 02/10/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Mine are.Our baby girl was wearing a cute pijama and my husband told my MIL it was a gift from my mom. Next time we visited, she had bought two pijamas. She saw a bed time stories book, also a gift from my mom, she bought one as well. She often inquires about when and how often my parents got to see my baby. Well, I'm on a maternity leave now, and I visit my parents a few times a week and sometimes have lunch with them. My parents live nearby. My IL get to see our baby once a week, and it's a lot considering they live 1 hour drive away. According to my MIL, since my parents have already two grandchildren (my sister's kids), she and my FIL have more rights to see my baby and spend time with her. The fact is that my parents are very relaxed and have no need to compete. Just wanted to hear your point of view.

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Sara - posted on 02/10/2014

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Thank you so much! Your post makes me feel better. I know I'm not alone now!!

Andrea - posted on 02/10/2014

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This sounds so familiar, except it is my father in law ..My father in law will ask " well what did your mother get them" I have gotten really good at saying " I don't know or I can't remember what she told me." Last month our youngest had his first birthday day, my mom got him things he could really use, Well my father in law went out and bought a toy he can't even use, he got him a battery operated scooter, it says on the box for age 3 to 6... So my older 2 kids ages 6 and 5 were very excited that they had a toy to play with.. lol... However it is things like that, that or he will even try to out do us as the parents by buying them thing that we have said no to as they are not old enough for them... He got my 6 year old son a remote control helicopter say ages 14 and up... My mom live 30 to 45 mins away and my father in law live 2 mins away..
Bottom line is it has got worse, after my mother in law passed. He really is a great guy and I know he means well, just wish he would ask us before buying to make sure kids can use it..
Your mother in law and father in law should understand that we moms always turn to our moms when we have a baby even if it is not your first.. I find my self always calling and asking my mom something.. You are doing just fine, just handle it very calmly and have your husband and yourself just try to refrain from telling your mother in law if your mom bought the baby something new, just say a friend got that or just a little something we picked up no biggy.. That and with them wanting to spend more time set it up that they come to you 1 or 2 days a week and then you guys visit them once or even offer to meet in the middle once a week, that way they are spending a little extra time and they won't feel jealous of your parents. My mom is very laid back and as she say won't play the game..
Hope this is helpful and know you are not alone.. Take care and best wishes..

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