Samantha - posted on 05/22/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have two daughters, 21 months and 4 months. I am having a terrible time with jealousy in my 21 month old. Every time I pick up the baby, she gets very upset and starts screaming. This often escalates into tantrums. I always go to her, as her if this is how she wants to behave, then remove her from the situation. I feel horrible because I feel like most of my time with her is spent dealing with tantrums. I try to include her in everything I do with the baby from diaper changes, to getting dressed, to nursing. My husband rarely has any of these problems with her. He always tells me she acts the way I do so I pay attention to her. I know he has always had more patience for just about everything in life, but I do try my very hardest. I do think part of the problem is she does not talk yet, just a few barely understandable words. She does sign, but when she gets frustrated, signing goes out the window and whining and screaming take over. Does anyone have any ideas how I can handle this more effectively? Thank you!