Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )
My name is Stephanie and I am a 23 year old mother to an amazing 5 year old little boy. My ex and I were together for about 6 years when we split up. We decided at that time to remain completely civil and arrange for joint custody (week on/week off basis).
In the beginning it was a verbal agreement between him and I, and there were no issues. One day at 6 AM I heard a knock on the door, much to my surprise, I was being served papers for his father to have custody. I thought that I was loosing my child and I nearly had a complete break down. With no money to my name... I still had no option but to hire a lawyer and started my end of the process.
In the end the joint custody was still arranged and I was somewhat relieved at that moment... That was nearly 7 months ago. Now I am regretting even agreeing to that. I am depressed so much of the time because I don't get to see my little boy everyday, like I had for the first 5 years of him life. I see him for a week at a time and then POOF he's gone. Back to dad's and I have no idea what he does while he's there, what he learns, who he is interacted with. He comes back to my house so defiant. I get him back, get him back on track of listening and paying attention to rules and having structure... and he goes right back to his dad's to learn that his past behavior is okay and he forgets all that he had learned at my house. It's so frustrating because I am so excited that he is there.. But at the same time it is so defeating to have the same battles over and over again until the day before he goes back... Just to have it all forgotten.
I don't know what to do. I don't know my options. I don't even know where to begin. But I do know, I want to fight to be able to see my sweet boy more often, at the very least.
Has anyone dealt with this? Do I have options? I don't want to take him away from his dad. But that boy needs me just as badly as I do him..