Anne - posted on 03/10/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have three daughters 14, 12, and 10 with my ex. We have shared custody (week on/off) but two years ago he remarried and moved out of town. He still has his house in the town I live in and stays there every other week with our girls, so they can attend the same school. After a tough year of my oldest fighting me to live with her dad in the other town, I gave in and let her go. However, because of the situation where he is gone every other week, she lives with his parents (her grandparents). I see her every other weekend and on all school breaks. The two younger ones are fighting me everyday and asking to live with their dad and just see me on weekends and school breaks. They say they miss their oldest sister and feel like their home is in the new town with their dad. I am a single mom working a full-time job and a part-time job with very little help from friends or family. 99% of the time it is just me. The after-school/evening routine is hectic, but manageable. I plan special activities to spend extra time with my daughters, but the girls do not appreciate the time I set aside for them. I feel like nothing is every good enough. They ask if I could work less to take them to and from school, but financially I cannot afford to work less hours. Also, I am a newly single mother to 8 month old twins, in which the father is not involved. This stretches my time to the max. I understand the girls are begging for my time. But their solution is to remove themselves completely. How can I prevent this? How can I stay strong and keep them with me without creating resentment? I'm so torn on what to do.
Any advice would be great!