just finding out old babysitters husbands did things to my daughter and that a old boyfriend friend made my daughter perform sexual actd on him
Dove - posted on 08/25/2013
Uh... how were we supposed to know that this happened 17 YEARS ago....??? Perhaps that information would have been useful in the op cuz I guarantee you wouldn't have gotten the same responses.
Yeah... file a report, help her get counseling, and just be there for her.
Amy - posted on 08/25/2013
Rather than beat Monique up for what you deem to be carelessness, try to be helpful. I'm sure she is feeling guilty enough. plus things were different back then (pre Columbine and without constant reliance on cell phones and internet).
Counseling is a good start. Talk to family members to see if they can help remember who they were. Your daughter may remember their names. I'm assuming that she's an adult now due to the length of time that has passed, right? See if there are support groups in your area. Also make a police report. You may need to do that before you or your daughter qualify for victim services.
Dove - posted on 08/24/2013
How do you not know who people are that YOU left alone with your child?! That's almost as disturbing as what has happened to your baby. It is your job to protect her and one of the first ways to do that is NOT leaving her with people you don't know.... ever.
WTF? You don't know who they are??? You don't know who you left your child with??
How do you know it happened? If she told you it happened, she can identify them, correct? Get all your sitters and ex's in a line up and let her point them out.
In the future, you might want to start vetting the people you leave your little one with a little more thoroughly. If you don't have a CURRENT SLED background check, mental health record, and at least 6 to 12 GOOD references, you have NO BUSINESS WHAT SO FUCKING EVER leaving your child alone with them. I'm sorry, but I'm appalled at your carelessness. Until she is old enough to protect herself, you should know exactly who you are leaving your child with. I'm not saying that will keep things like this from happening, but at least you'll know who did them when they do happen.
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