Just found out 13 weeks pregnant , drank every night up until found out, is my baby doomed? should i keep this preg?

Jane - posted on 03/02/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ok, I just found out I'm 13 weeks pregnant.
The thing is I have been drinking up to 3 glasses of red wine every night pretty much, up until I found out.
The reason why I didnt expect to be pregnant (at all !!! ) , was because my husband is 99.9% Infertile , we've gone through IVF five times for the past 2 years, and each time was a fail and After each time I'd fall into a terrible depression (but even then I didnt drink). But now I find out Im preg 13 weeks and shoked, (I didnt and still dont have any symptoms ) the only reason I found out was bcause I had a planned check up ( 2 months after IVF its done usually) . Ive read everywhere that too much alcohol harms the baby and my baby is doomed, I dont know what to do!!!!! I will never drink again!!! 3-4 glasses of red wine a night up until 13 weeks, is all the harm done? cant I keep my baby ?
Please,honest answers,
Maybe you know someone who had a healthy child born even after drinking so much (for a fetus) .

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Ev - posted on 02/15/2016

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Mom to be--It is scary to find out you are having a baby after having had been drinking like you have. But some women do not know they are pregnant until 3 months because they do not have the symptoms of morning sickness and other issues that come along. It is not uncommon. No one here is putting you to blame for drinking and being pregnant and doing so on purpose or because you have alcohol issues. It is just something that can happen and there is no controlling it. What you need to do is get to your doctor right away and get prenatal care going. Tell everything you have consumed over the last 3 months including the alcohol and how much. There are tests that can be done to see if there is an affect on the baby. They do say any amount of alcohol can affect the baby but no one can know for sure about smaller amounts or even one glass. Just do not get so wound up that it affects your emotional state either because that is just not good for you and the baby during pregnancy. I know what it is like to learn something about an unborn child and having to wait for tests to find out if it is going to be true or not. It takes a lot out of you. Find someone to confide in with your worries and so on and talk to your husband. It is important to keep a level head as much as possible during this. I did not have that option for the situation I was in. Just know that everything turned out for my now adult son. I had not drank pregnant but I had other issues and that worried me like this is worrying you. Just hang in there and do all the doctor tells you. Also those links below can give you more information of development of your baby and the placenta and so on. It is mostly just general information but can help I hope to ease your mind too.


Tina--I looked up the placenta and when it forms. It forms early on but it is not fully formed until the end of the first trimester. Here is the information.
It comes from the Mayo Clinic website.

"Week 4: Implantation

By the time it reaches the uterus, the rapidly dividing ball of cells — now known as a blastocyst — has separated into two sections.

The inner group of cells will become the embryo. The outer group will become the cells that nourish and protect it. On contact, the blastocyst will burrow into the uterine wall for nourishment. This process is called implantation.

The placenta, which will nourish your baby throughout the pregnancy, also begins to form."

"The placenta begins forming at the point of implantation, which is about 8 days after the point of conception. Nutrient exchange between mother and fetus begins at this time, though the circulation of the placenta does not fully develop till the end of the first trimester." ZocDoc website.

The placenta is there and forming during the first trimester. It does not just all of a sudden come on at that time. The baby is still getting what it needs from the mother with the placenta starting to develop at 8 days from conception. It develops from then on to 12 weeks to be fully functional.

Tina - posted on 02/15/2016

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The placenta doesn't form until 12 weeks so it's highly unlikely you did any real damage.

Tina - posted on 02/15/2016

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I know this was from a long time ago, but don't beat yourself up. The placenta doesn't form until 12 weeks and the amount of food and other beverages you consume compete with the alcohol as well. It isn't like it's going straight from your mouth to the baby.

Tylar - posted on 03/02/2014

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How did you survive 13 weeks and not know?!?!?! I'm 13 weeks and am only beginning to feel like I can function without upchucking haha. Okay anyway....alcohol is what's called a teratogen. Which means it can pass through your body and harm the baby while in utero. Stuff like nicotine and hard drugs like cocaine are also teratogens. What's important is that yes ANY amount of alcohol can affect the baby...BUT you also have a lot of control! So you missed the first trimester? Okay. Now you just have to do your best and make healthy decisions for you and your baby. Nowadays we look down on any alcohol use. But in the 50s it was commonplace to drink AND smoke cigarettes while pregnant, and SOMEHOW those children turned out fine. The important difference is being a good parent! There is a difference between being a mommas who drank some while she was pregnant and being an alcoholic mother both pre and post natal. I'm sure your doctors will recommend some of the tests to see how your baby was affected, especially since this was a surprise for a difficult accomplishment! Don't be scared, just be a good mama and it will be ok!!

Kayla - posted on 03/02/2014

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Just wondering if you have told your doctor or not yet? At prenatal check ups they do ask if there has been any alcohol use.
When my mom was pregnant with me, she didn't know until she was about 16 weeks. She said she drank a couple glasses of wine a few nights a week. She was really worried and of course told her doctor this when she found out. Well, I didn't have any serious health problems as a kid. But when I was 17, I was diagnosed with a kidney disease, and I also suffer from liver dysfunction. I have never asked if this could be caused by my mom consuming alcohol while she was pregnant, so I don't know. She believes that's why, but I will never find out for sure. Because the thing is, she had no idea she was pregnant, and if she had known, she wouldn't have consumed 1 drop of alcohol.
You definitely should tell your doctor about your situation, but in my opinion, it is not your fault. Like you said, you had no idea you were pregnant! Good luck throughout your pregnancy, and congratulations :)

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