Stacey - posted on 07/30/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )
In past few weeks me and my partner found out that he has a 4yr old son as a result of a one night stand before we got together. A DNA test has been done and its confirmed he is the father. We have been together for three and a half years and we a 23 month old son. My partner has decided that he wants to be part of the child's life which I agree is the right thing to do as every child deserve a father. I am willing to accept the child but I dont want him to have anything to do with the child's mother. I have told him that I dont want him to go to their family home and that all visits with his son should be in public places. I have also to him that I want to be aware of every conversation he has with the mother and that all should be transparent if it is going to work. He agreed to it, however I have found a conversation of changing the birth certificate and some photos of the child which she sent him yesterday and he never told me about it. I feel so stressed, angry and dissaponted, I dont know wether I can it. He just expects me to accept and says that all his kids are equal and they are going to come first which is fair enough. I dont know wether I can take it, I feel like I should leave but I am afraid to.