Justanana - posted on 01/28/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
My wonderful husband and I have been married for almost a decade. Both of us had cheating spouses who divorced us for other people. Thankfully, we found each other and are enjoying the fruits of a loyal, honest marriage. I have 4 children from a previous marriage and he has 3.
My children got married earlier and have blessed us with several grandchildren. All of my children love him and treat him like a father and the grandchildren as their precious 'papa'. I have always felt like his children's feelings were genuine about me.
We were there when the new couple got engaged and were somewhat involved throughout the planning. Of course the brides family was in charge.
From the moment we arrived it began. The disrespect toward me was so humiliating. No corsage, left out of pictures and never mentioned my name or acknowledged their dad and me as a couple. It was so hurtful. It was so obvious some of the other guests were noticing and looking at us with pity. We overheard some relatives discussing it.
The whole event was so embarrassing for my husband, especially because my children have always honored him and made him feel loved, welcomed and appreciated. Now we are home and he is speechless other than saying, 'my children are horrible'.
We are not sure how to proceed. The children's mother is very hard to deal with so we assume maybe they were trying to make sure they did not get her stirred up but it is really not a good excuse. She is not nice but to be mean to us is not right either. At the daughter's wedding his ex did some nasty stuff but this time the new bride's family was a part of it.
There is still one more wedding in the future........what in the world do we do? I think my husband is getting tired of it and I really was caught off guard by the disrespect toward me. Do his children not understand it is out of love and respect for me, my children are able to love their dad?