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Hi, I'm 22 and literally only found out I was pregnant (unplanned!) 3 days ago. Now, I know it's early days, and you wouldn't usually tell anyone yet but as I officially still live with my parents (although I'm with my boyfriend the majority of the time) I thought it would be right to tell them ASAP.
Now, let me give you a bit of a background as to why my mum may have reacted in the way she did. Like I said, I'm 22. I qualified as a teacher in July 2011. In England, to become a full teacher you have to do something called an NQT year. Unfortunately at the moment there are way too many teachers for the amount of jobs and so unfortunately I have not got a permanent job yet. At the moment I am supply teaching, which while it can be good money, it is day to day work and if the work isn't there it means I get no money. I have no savings and I haven't been with my boyfriend very long and he already has a 2 year old daughter. The situation is made more complicated by the fact that my boyfriend's wife passed away (before we got together obviously) and so there is that whole aspect to our relationship.
Despite all of this my boyfriend and I are very much in love and want to keep the baby.
Now, when I told my parents I knew their reaction wasn't going to be brilliant. My mum pretty much told me that I was stupid, highly irresponsible and living in cloud cuckoo land. She said that my prospect of getting a job are now down to 0.5%, that I am going to be stuck in a tiny flat, with a minimum wage job and that I was going to have an extremely hard life.
I know why my mum reacted like this. She is worried about me and wants the best but it was still hard to sit through her saying that to me.
So the point of this post is: Is she right?
Personally I think she is overreacting from shock. If any of you have any advice or support I would love to hear it!