Jennifer - posted on 07/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have just separated from my children's father, we were together for 8 years (no marriage). In November of 2013 we mutually decided that we were no longer happy together. So I finally moved out and took our 2 children with us to live in an apartment across town.
Me and my ex are still friendly towards each other and able to spend family time together with the kids occasionally. First question, Is that ok that we are able to be friends?
Though he feels he made a mistake, and Im clearly happy where I am as a single adult, ( I dont call it a single mom because....well he still co parents a lot)
In March I decided to hit the rebound scene and filled my spare time that the kids were away with their father with time for me to be a grown up. Upon my enjoyment and complete surprise I bumped into an old friend from High school that we used to crush on each other, we both made it apparent that we weren't ready for a relationship we just wanted to catch up on times and just have some fun together. after almost 5 months of spend time together on the weekends when the kids are away we have become something of an Item, we dont call it a relationship but hell we both feel like it is. ( I dont like labels and neither does he)
He loves who I am as a person and says he has feelings for me, he wants to meet my children, and Ive spoken with their dad about it and he absolutely shut it down. I know that is not up to me and him to decide whether my kids can meet my friend but I didnt want him completely shocked when my children speak about him...
My second question is, Do you feel like its safe to allow my kids to meet him?
We have already discussed things of our future together and have actually made plans to be married and spoke about our career futures and how our lives would work. He's a stable man and has a career of his own and all the things good about a decent man.
Does anyone think I moved on too quickly after leaving my ex?
We were both unfaithful many times but after a long stretch of me being faithful and him not so much I just feel like I wasnt "IN LOVE" with him for a very long time, kind of like co ed room mates who happen to have children together....does that sound bad? probably so....Im not looking for Judgement and Would really just like someone to answer my questions.