just want to b**ch

Amanda - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I was told today by my brother in law that I am not a mother and that I have not cared for my child, that I let him get hurt and do what he wants when he wants while I sit on my butt. I asked if he "knocked up" his new girlfriend but I did not mean it in a rude way and his response was no he did not knock her up she is having his child and that she is not a whore like me. WTF, I have been with his brother for 5 years and we have one child together another on the way. And all this shit is coming from the suppose to be god-father who stole money from the baby's piggy bank! Let's here the responses to this one....lol

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Jade - posted on 02/25/2010

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Wow...whats your partner got to say about this??? If i was him i would be tell him to get the F*** out of my house and to stay the f*** away from my family...WHAT A JERK!!! and to talk to you like that when your pregnant...how disrespectful!!! Not that it's ok to talk to you like that if your not pregnant...SHAME ON HIM! Punch him in the face...lol

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Michelleinblack - posted on 05/01/2012

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Michelle here my son was given gaurdion ship to my x I laws just had his birthday and they desire to take all the toys clothes etc that we gave him just last Saturday now they complain that we have some of his things we have been through child costody and had our lawyers now it hurts us that we don't have anything at our house for him when he stays at our house in holidays etc I'm also a guardian even though I had to give him up cause I wasn't coping please help from michelle

Rachel - posted on 03/02/2010

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People seem to think, when they are about to have a child, that they will do it better than anyone in the history of the world. Just wait until he has his own child, in a relationship that is still new, and you can just sit back and laugh at him. It's really easy to pass judgement on other people, and he may be trying to build himself up by tearing you down. If he's the kind of person who would steal money from a baby's piggy bank he's probably not destined to be father-of-the-year. Kids get hurt whether you stand over them every second of their lives or not. You just love your kids and keep doing your best. It's hard work being pregnant, something that a-hole knows nothing about.

Shannon - posted on 03/01/2010

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OMG! You should see my husbands sis in law (i don't clam her). Her kids range from ages 8,7,5,3,1, and one on the way. She wants no less than 8 and she refuses to work. She doesn't wash the kids, the oldest takes care of the younger ones while she sleeps all day and stays up all night. The state took her kids last yr for neglect and they are about to take them again for the same thing. She may not get them back this go round, and personaly I hope she doesn't. I think as long as you keep your kids clean, healthy, loved,and taken care of then your a GREAT MOM!

Tanisha - posted on 03/01/2010

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Oh my word. Your man needs to step in on that one because obivously he developed that open from somewhere and that is very disrespectful. He could not be the god-father of my child.

Eva Bro - posted on 02/28/2010

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Are you a good mother ????- Great..if you are. People say what they see, or say what they think they saw,.But you know your a great mother,so dont worry what anyone says'. Your outlaw bother will be intellectually challenged when his own child comes along.So.keep cool ,take care of yourself ,you have another child on the way.Now that will be fun wont it.

Corinne - posted on 02/28/2010

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So, seeing as youre asking for opinions, here is my two cents:

FIrst of all, you are completely within your rights to tell your husbands brother to get fucking bent, how dare he insinuate youre a whore?
SEcondly: you should have some serious words with your husband if, after his brother called you a whore a lazy mom and a lay about, he did nothing to rectify the situation. That is disgusting behaviour. Absolutely vile and if thats the way your brother in law is treating you then you need to sever ties with him. He obviously doesnt want you in his life and you obviously dont want him in yours. SImple really, You just have to now deal with the problem you must have with your husband basically blowing this all off.

Thats inexcusable if you ask me. And while you may not be able to "fire" godpareents, you can just stop your child from having contact with theirs. If that man is your sons god father then i suggest removing your son fromhis influence.

Sue - posted on 02/27/2010

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it sounds like there are alot of issues in play in this family dynamics that have nothing to do with parenting skills the way you raise your child is your decision and not anyone elses if they cannot support you and your methods distance yourself from these peole and someone who would steal from anyone let alone a baby should not be your choice for godfather status

Wendy - posted on 02/27/2010

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Wow. Does your husband know about this? What does he have to say about it all? That aside, does your brother-in-law's opinion of you really matter? My FATHER told me 20 years ago that I would never be a good mother to my son, and that one day he was going to come to my house, take my son, and I would never see him again. That's the last time I spoke/saw/contacted my father, because I cut him off. I now have 3 kids, 21, 15, and 7, and he has never seen the younger two except in pictures, which I stopped sending after he told my sister that my middle son didn't even look like me, which was a good thing, because I wasn't normal. Sometimes we just have to take a step back and realize that if our extended family members are not being nice, well they are not exactly part of the core family unit, are they? Tell your husband what is going on. If he won't listen, make him listen. You don't need your BIL's approval on your parenting skills to be a good Mom, Amanda. Tell him to grow up and get right or get out of your life for good. You don't have to listen to him. Surround yourself and your family with people who love and support you, and get rid of the ones who don't. Be happy, honey. You deserve it. We all do.

Jeannette - posted on 02/27/2010

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I am I mother in law too I have very good in laws too but 3 of my husbands sister were monsters because my in laws did more with me than them.They were kicked out of the house 10 years ago by my husband and we have lived a better life since.

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what an ass! he sounds like one of those people who can only feel better when he makes someone else look small. I say ignore him, and try to spend as little time as you can around him and don't let anything he says get to you. He has no business sticking his nose in your life. what does your husband say about it? I hope he is standing up for you!

Cassandra - posted on 02/27/2010

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WOW...I went through and read a few of the responses to this one before I made my own...Im sorry but I would be beyond pissed that your boyfriend did not choose to stick up for you. As for the first douche, whatever. For some reason he is either A.) jealous and feels the need to be rude to cover it up and B.) a miserable a**hole and I feel bad that children have to be raised by someone who so obviously sucks at life. Keep your head up and know thats not the damn truth, and if I were you, I would let your man know that his sitting there and NOT defending his family, is more damaging to you then an idiot throwing around a few hurtful claims.

Angel` - posted on 02/27/2010

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Yeah my daughter's hair is not red and her daddy's is. But he can't say she is not his cause she acts like him and her face looks like his. Anyways you just need to ignore your brother-in-law cause he sounds like an a**. You know that old saying sticks and stones may break my bones but worlds can never hurt me...lol

Lisa - posted on 02/27/2010

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I have had in law troubles but you have to bear it in mind you babies father is related to them and sometimes it takes them a while to cotton on that YOU and YOUR babies come first. Luckily after a few years my in laws have either had a talking to from my hubby(not me) or being told to keep away. Some people are toxic and just poison your very being and need to be set straight or cut out of your lives. Good luck!!

Stephanie M W - posted on 02/26/2010

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one other thing ,im a motherinlaw also and not all motherinlaws are bitche,s i was very lucky myself and had a wonderful one for forty three years she helped me and i helped her ,im also one of ten children we often argue but always come together when there is trouble ,i hope things improve for you and your partner,and don,t fret over remarks from bad tempered ,brotherinlaws.

Stephanie M W - posted on 02/26/2010

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hi amanda im a mother , grandmother,and registered childminder,and reading all the coments on your link .a number of things come to mind .1 your partner should have showed him the door ,and made it plain he has no right to speak to you that way ,especialy considering your condition ,and i think until your babes is old enough to decide for himself what he thinks of his uncle ,you don,t need negative attitudes being given to him. His opinions don,t matter as enyone who realy knows you knows what sort of mum you are ,i don,t know if you can have him changed as the godfather ,but that job means to me as a godmother myself teaching the best posible ,way i can the right way to live,and respect for other people and things that belong to other people

Amanda - posted on 02/26/2010

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I already replaced the godmother b/c she wanted nothing to do with my son after another friend had a baby girl. WTF is wrong with people these days? I told him he is no longer the godfather and not to worry about coming around when I have my second child in the summer. Also, he was in another state doing this over facebook so all of my friends and family as well as his saw what was going on and only 2 people stood up for me. My man didn't even get into the whole thing. He was just like forget it amanda why let it bother you. What? Someone just said I am a crappy mom and that your child is not yours and you want me to get over it and not say anything. I think not. And to the person that said saying getting knocked up is rude well that is what I said both times I got pregnant "You got me knocked up babe." I mean, in my family its just something you say, it has no real negative meaning in my mind.

Cathy - posted on 02/25/2010

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In-laws are sooo not worth it. Eliminate the problem & you will be so relieved with the results!!

Sharon - posted on 02/25/2010

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I'm curious as to what the baby daddy had to say.



Douche bags abound. thats a fact. Real men stand up for their wives and baby mamas... so I'm curious....

Andrea - posted on 02/25/2010

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Did you pop him in the mouth? I think I'd lose my mind if I had to deal with that. He sounds like a jerk and I wouldn't waste my time (or my baby's) on him.

Renee - posted on 02/25/2010

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I'll go one further than punch him in the face. Kick him in the junk....lol. Just kidding. I would totally cut them out of your life. The stress is just not worth it. You need to stay healthy physically and emotionally to be any good to your growing family. Good luck.

Dana - posted on 02/25/2010

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Wow, he seems like a dick but, asking if he knocked his girlfriend up is rude, even if you didn't mean it rudely.

Roxanna - posted on 02/25/2010

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Ive been there. My mother in law and my husbands cousin went and told everyone after my daughter was born that she wasnt my husbands. Even though she has her daddys eyes, nose, eye color and lips. Even the nurses told them to their face they were crazy my baby looked just like my husband. After I got done with them they quit coming around and I havent went to see them any. Our son we had this past year looks like me blonde hair and blue eyes. His cousin didnt say anything but my hubby sent a pic to his mom via text and she asked him just where the blue eyes and blonde hair come from. DUH actually have something to do with your daughter in law and grandchildren and you would know you dingbat!

Ericka - posted on 02/25/2010

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Wow sounds like my crazy a** sister in law. She claims that our two babies aren't my fiances and even went to the extreme of slapping me in the face when i was pregnant with our daughter.

Sheree - posted on 02/25/2010

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Oh i know what you are going through, my MIL told everyone else in her family that my husband (her son) isnt the father of our child as she doesnt have red hair and everyone in his family does and she has blue eyes which no one in his family has. In laws just arent worth the trouble sometimes. we have cut them out of my life and my daughters, my husband can still see them any time he wants but hasnt since xmas. Cutting them out has made our life so so so much better :) Good luck with everything, oh and maybe reconsider your son's god father if he is going to disrespect you in that way, what is he going to say and teach you little guy.

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