Just wondering if anyone has gone though this. I had my 5th daughter in Jan. I am supposed to have my tubes tied next Friday, but... My husband really doesn't want me to. I have gotten preg. 2-3 times on birth control already. I feel very badly for my husband because he hasn't gotten the boy he

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Chrystal - posted on 03/09/2012

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I get being a bit upset by not getting a boy that he wanted but at the same time you could have 5 more babies and still not have a boy. It's the luck of the draw you just pulled 5 girls and if you're done having babies then that's that. If it's just the actual having the babies that you can't handle anymore but the resources and love for more have you considered adopting a boy there are a lot of kids that need love in this world.

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Connie - posted on 03/19/2012

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you do realize that it is the man who determines the sex of the child? it may be that your husband cannot throw male children in which case you may never have a boy. getting your tubes tied should be your decision. I tied mine on the request of my husband and have regretted it ever since. good luck and God bless!

Bonnie - posted on 03/19/2012

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Kelly, i'm glad to hear it worked out for you and that your husband is taking it well. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 03/18/2012

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Just an update... Well, I did it! Tubes are tied. My husband has been very good. He hasn't talked about it at all, which works out fine for me! Thank you everyone for all your advice and warm wishes!! Circle of Mom's is great!!

Kelly - posted on 03/10/2012

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Thanks Bonnie. I feel the same way. I am truly blessed to have these healthy children! I tried the IUD (which would be perfect), after my 2 year old and my body rejected it. I am going to talk to my dr. again about it, but I am pretty sure once you have a bad reaction to it, you can't do it again. I would like him to get the vasectomy, because it is the only reversible method, and he offers to, but I honestly do not believe he will do it. He doesn't have health insurance, so it's not something I can set up right now. And I have no clue how much that costs. He has been out of work for 14 months now, so money is tight (to say the least)! I think if he showed so initiative to provide better, then this wouldn't as difficult of a decision. We were definently raised very different! He has always gotten what he wanted, whereas my mother worked 2-3 jobs at a time to provide for my sisters and I. Do they ever grow up?!!!

Bonnie - posted on 03/10/2012

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I just wanted to add, if you are really unsure right now what to do because of your husband then maybe don't get your tubes tied. Use double the birth control (either the pill, depot shot, IUD, etc. and condoms as well).

Bonnie - posted on 03/10/2012

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Realistically, you could go on and on and on with child after child and never have a boy or you could have 5 more girls than have a boy. No one really knows. It depends what you can afford financially and physically. I am currently pregnant with my third boy although I have always had dreams of having a girl, this is it for us. We don't have the space for anymore after this one.



I just keep telling myself that I am very fortunate to have 2 very healthy boys and hopefully the same with the third, especially when there are so many in this world who can't have kids or it takes them years to get pregnant.

Kelly - posted on 03/10/2012

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Hello. Thanks everyone! I think I will be upset once the procedure, but I am pretty good about moving on. My husband is not that way. He rarely forgives, and never forgets. We have briefly talked about adopting, in the future, but he says " I would really like my (1st) son to be my blood. Yes, I agree- petty!! I think he will end up resenting me forever if I go thru with the procedure. Which really (excuse my French) super sucks. I have been changing diapers for 16 years. I am wanting to get myself back. Have taken some classes in the last 4 years, and have gotten straight A's. It feels nice to be proud of myself and I want to eventually do something with my life. Oh, and no, my pregnancies are not easy. Always go into preterm labor. Need injections weekly and medication. I don't think he realizes how all of the pregnancies take a toll on my body. Guess I just wish he would appreciate the 5 amazing, healthy, beautiful daughters he has! Wishful Thinking!!

Dianne - posted on 03/09/2012

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i also know a family of 7 girls so there is no guarantee of getting a boy, and apparently the babys sex is determined by the fathers 'contribution' hence some couples having a higher chance of one particular sex but again its no guarantee so its a matter of where you draw the line as to how many children you can handle and if that disappointment would just get worse if it was more girls, despite loving them all

good luck with whatever your decision may be :)

Sherri - posted on 03/09/2012

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Actually Amanda it is a 50/50 chance for every pregnancy no matter how many of 1 sex you already have. I have 4 boys and if I were to get pregnant tomorrow it is still a 50/50 chance.



Good luck with your decision Kelly just know it is very painful to have done and you are going to be down and out for a few days, so make sure you have help with the baby. I know I just had it done 3 wks ago, 18hrs after giving birth.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2012

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If you have had 5 girls the likelyhood of a boy ever coming is extremely slim. I know a family with 8 girls, after the youngest was born with many medical issues, due to moms age, and amount of births already they finally gave up. You could always adopt a boy!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/09/2012

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Do you want to have another baby? Can your body sustain another? Are your pregnancies difficult?



I think 5 girls is enough to love if you have reached your limit.

Kelly - posted on 03/09/2012

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Continued.. He hasn't gotten the boy he " has always wanted". Feeling terrible. Any advice?

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