Just wondering what people think about baby boys ears pierced?

Tarlo - posted on 05/27/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )

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Both my partner and I want to get my sons ears pierced but his parents ( who we are currently living with) say no!! What the difference they had all there girls done at 3 mnths old!

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Julie - posted on 05/27/2010

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I don't think a parent should chose if their child gets their ears pierced, regardless of sex. Let the child decide when he/she is old enough.

Tenneshia - posted on 06/25/2010

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Well me personally I feel its your kid you can do whatever as long as you are not putting him in harms way. I pierced my son's ear when he was 5 mths old. A lot of older women looked down on me for doing it but its a rights of passage sorta for the men in my family. They all have ear piercing. I only did one of his ears and i will let him decide on if he wants to get the other. Its your kid you carried him 9+ months and brought him into this world, i say have at it!!! An if his dad is being supportive more than enough reason to go ahead!!!

Jodi - posted on 06/23/2010

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Tarlo, firstly, all those exclamation marks in your post indicated to me that you were not happy with the responses you got. I'll be honest, there is nothing worse than someone posting a request for opinions and then getting all huffy when they don't hear what they want to hear. It tells me that they aren't seeking opinions at all, they are seeking validation.



Your responding post where you are telling people who are providing their opinions you don't agree with to "grow up" is also a little defensive don't you think?



Secondly, you never even mentioned your age anywhere in the thread, so why are you accusing people of treating young mothers badly? Your age has absolutely nothing to do with the opinions given. You asked for opinions, you got them. No-one was nasty or critical, they just provided their opinions on the issue at hand. Some of them just happen to differ from your own, and that is ok.



Ultimately, it IS your decision, but listening to the reasoning of others can be a learning and growing experience. It has nothing to do with age. Heck, I'm 40 and I still seek advice and opinions too!! We should never stop learning and growing, and no-one knows everything.

Minnie - posted on 06/23/2010

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The same thing I think about baby girls having their ears pierced. unecessary cosmetic procedure that puts unconsenting children through pain purely for vanity's sake.

Wendi - posted on 10/13/2011

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it is up to you if you want to get them done. i saw a little boy with his ears pierced in a daycare where i was working. it looked cute and made him look tough. lol

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Tiajuana - posted on 10/13/2011

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well that is ur choice,but i choice to do mine just like my mother got mine done

Emilie - posted on 10/09/2011

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Maybe its just me but I don't like seeing little boys with earrings. There was a boy in my daughters day care class when she was 1 that had both his ears peirced and I thought he was a girl. Also I had my daughters ears peirced when she was 2 months old and the backs would always poke her behind her ears and her ears were very sensitive so even if I do have another child weithers its a boy or a girl I will wait till they can make there own discion about that.

Tiajuana - posted on 10/09/2011

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I got both of my boys ear pierced @ 18m and the other was two at the time.and now the are 7 and nine.Their Grandparents said no and it was Girly man thing(Granddad and Daddy) But they are my KIDS and I took them to the mall and got it done and they Loved them,and I got mine second hole..they didnt even cry.. I had to stop buying the nice$$ earring cause eveytime the would go to the Grandparents the earring would go missing and No1 know anything .But as of now they have them in with no problem

Alexandra - posted on 10/02/2011

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Gender doesn't matter. It's the level of maturity and responsibility that matters most.

Jessie - posted on 09/25/2011

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I have one girl almost 2 and am about to have a boy in Nov. I really really considered getting her ears pierced as a baby but after her getting shots and hearing her cry (although not long) and seeing how it effected me (I think I cried more than her) I just couldn't do it. I didn't know how she would react and figured it is something we can get done later. My husband has had earrings in the past and we aren't planning on piercing our boy's ears because Daddy has had them (sometimes still wears them) or has them. If you guys want to do it though that is your decision. I do think it is more uncommon and that it could make people think he is a girl. NOT saying your child looks like a girl but people mistake genders all the time without thinking so that is def. a possibility. My daughter has only been mistaken for a boy once (when she was 6 or 7 months) and she was surrounded by pink stuff and wearing pink.... so sometimes people just don't think before assuming.

Phillipa - posted on 09/25/2011

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Tarlo, the ! makes it look like you're been defensive. My lad, who's 10 next month, had his left ear done today after months of nagging me for it. My daughter had hers done at 4, again because she asked for them. I don't think piercing babies is nice thou. :(

Andrea - posted on 06/25/2010

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It a personal choice that only you and your husband can make. I have two girls and 2 boy. My girls are 11 and 9 months I got both of their ear's pierced at 6 months after their second DTP shot. I had and have no regrets is doing so and my 11 year old doesnt have any issues this far of me piercing her ears I think seen it something she always now she ok with it. My parents waited till I was 7 and i messed with the ear rings so much cuz I thought they were cool I ended up pushing the back on the ear ring so tight it grew in to my ear and got infected. I personally found it easier and safer to do it at a younger age. Like I said its a personal choice for you and your husband to make. If you do it make sure you go with solid gold no less than 24 k it better for baby's ears and since they are so young you can change the after the normal time but you have to leave earrings in thier ears all the time for the first year or two or they could close up. As far piercing your boy ear that your choice if your ok with it than do and forget what anyone think. I personally wont have my baby boys ears pierced. My 9 year whats one of his ear pierced and I dont feel it right for a boy to have a ear ring but I probably will take him to get it done it's what he wants and if he decides later on he dont like it he can always take it out.

Emily - posted on 06/25/2010

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Its your choice, my son will probably have his done just like daddy here in the future. I had mine done when I was a baby at only a few days old, the hospital done them.
As for people mixing him up with a girl, they would be idiots, theres a difference between boys and girls and if they can't tell its not because of an earring. Getting the ears pierced is not like having a tattoo, if he doesn't like it, (which I doubt since you said daddy has one) he can take it out and let it grow in.
At least when you do it now, the risk of infection is a lot lower because you will be the one taking care of it, not getting him to remember to. Plus, right now he wont remember the pain of getting it done.

Good luck in your decision and do what you and your family want, not what others want you to do. He's your son and your son only. Your his momma, he will love you no matter if he has a pierced ear or not.

Danielle - posted on 06/25/2010

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I agree with Julie. Why pierce your child's ears, boy or girl? You would never pierce any other body part on your child so let him make that choice when he's older. Also, I think if you pierce your sons ears people will start assuming he's a girl.

Tracey - posted on 06/25/2010

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I haven't had my daughters ears pierced yet because I"m afraid she's going to rip them out. I'm going to wait until she's older just for safety reasons. She likes to pull on her ears and I"m afraid it will be uncomfortable for her to lay on the side of her head with them in.

That being said, if you want your son to have his ears pierced, go for it. If you feel it's safe or you are ok with the risks they have no right to tell you what to do since you aren't risking him in any way.

*Lisa* - posted on 06/25/2010

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I don't think it matters how much like a boy that your son looks now. I can guarantee if you pierce his ears, you will get many people questioning if he is a girl. Only because it's far more common for girls to have ears pierced than boys. It'd be the same as putting him in a dress. Confuse the hell out of everyone.

Merry - posted on 06/25/2010

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I wouldn't do it but I think it's cute! I feel it's unnecessary and painful but it's cute, so if it's worth the judjements and the possible pain for him then go for it. But again my opinion is no.

Cristl - posted on 06/25/2010

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As bad as it sounds, i think it looks totally trashy for little boys to have their eirs peirced.

Sherri - posted on 06/25/2010

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If you are for it, go for it. My middle son has his left ear pierced, he loves it. I think he has more earrings than I do.

Tenneshia - posted on 06/25/2010

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an to angela knight, i dont agree with your comment staing that its child abuse to pierce a child's ear. My son didnt even cry when he got his ear pierced, nor does he play with it. I think that it is soley that parents decision at that young age and if they wait til the child is older and then let the child decide. Whats the difference then when that child gets older and they want it done and their parents say no? It is still their body they should be able to make that decision, right???

Heather - posted on 06/24/2010

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Personally, I wouldn't do it no matter whether it was a boy or girl. My son has asked a couple of times (usually immediately after a classmate has had it done) and I've said he can wait till he's 16. (He has a long list of things he wants to when he's older or moved out of home!). Usually the desire passes quickly anyway. IMO It's his body, and thus not my decision to make.

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I'm not a fan of piercing any baby's ears (though I'm not opposed to others making that decision), but I would never pierce a boy's ears. I've lived upstairs from a little boy (2-3ish) for a year and a half... and honestly, we lived here a year before I realized he IS in fact a boy.

Tracy - posted on 06/23/2010

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My personal opinion is no way would I pierce my kids. When they are old enough to ask for it and demonstrate responsibility in taking care of their ears, fine. Until then, no way. That goes for both my son and my daughter. That's ME though.

Karen - posted on 06/23/2010

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I think that the child should be old enough to make up there own minds. I have 4 children and when my daughter was 3 I had her ears pierced and she screamed the place down. Six months later when i went to change the earrings she would not let me put them back in. When she got older she asked if she could have them pierced again to which I said yes. When we went to get them done all the memmories came back and she couldn't go through with it.I couldn't believe she remembered it. It took her another 5 years to pluck up the courage to have it done and by that time she was 15 years old.
2 of my boy's wanted theirs done but i remembered how it had affected my daughter so i said no until they were older. When 1 son was 13 he really wanted it done so i took him along with his 11 year old brother had had it done with no worries at all, but 2 years later niether of them wear an earring so really what was the point.
It really should be the childs choice.

Minnie - posted on 06/23/2010

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I think a lot of people want validation to justify a choice- and when they ask for opinions you have to read in-between the lines: "I only want your opinion if you agree with me!"

Krista - posted on 06/23/2010

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Yeah, Tarlo. I'm really not sure what's going on here. You and your partner both want to get your son's ears pierced. So I'm really not sure why you asked for our opinions in the first place, if you've already made up your mind. But you DID ask for our opinions, and now you're getting angry because some people expressed opinions that differ from your own? It just doesn't make sense.

Stephanie - posted on 06/23/2010

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Tarlo, healed over piercings DO scar. My husband has both of his ears pierced and used to have double, the upper holes on each ear are still very visible even though it has been many many many years since an earring has been worn, by the time your son is old enough to decide that he does not want earrings the hole will have fully formed and he will be left with permanent marks.

I've noticed a lot of people on COM seems to think it's their right to do XYZ to their child simply because they are the mother, but as one poster in this debate commented our children are not our property to do with what we want.

Angela - posted on 06/23/2010

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Personally I think anyone who pierces a baby's ears is guilty of child abuse. You are causing your child unecessary pain and distress for no other reason than that you think it would look good. Piercing is a body adornment and like all body adornments they should be the domain of adults only, only as an adult can you make a fully informed choice about something that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life. Your child's body is not a piece of property that belongs to you. Hell you might as well give him a tatoo and pierce his nipples while you're at it.

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hmm....didn't know your age, and I am a young mother also, don't know anything close to everything, but also stating my opinion in the matter. I believe kids should have the choice when they get older whether they have holes punched in their bodies or not. But if it is something you wand to do, don't ask opinions, and just do what you feel is best for your child. You are the mom!!! We are just a voice of other options.

Tarlo - posted on 06/23/2010

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Jodi I am not gettig deffensive! I'm being honest! How is saying that no one has questioned the sex of my son getting deffensive! And if I had honestly not listens to anyones advice don't you think my son would have his ears peirced by now??

To those people who say it is my choice I respect that heaps and to those who know evrything grow up! I may be young and I may only have one child but I am a good mother to my son! Stop treating young mothers Like we know nothing!

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He is a BOY, not to mention, that should be a choice he should be able to make when he is older, I think it should be the same with girls. My daughter will not be able to get hers done until at least 5 yrs of age, and that will still depend on whether she is old enough to take care of them.

Dana - posted on 06/22/2010

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I think that the child should be old enough to decide on his/her own if they want their ears to be pierced.

Jodi - posted on 06/22/2010

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Tarlo, why did you bother asking for opinions if you are going to get defensive when you receive advice you don't agree with?

Tarlo - posted on 06/22/2010

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My son looks nothing like a girl!! He is almost one now! He will be fine and just to let you know Nyssa I have never once had anyone ask me the sex of my son or get it wrong for that matter!!

Tarlo - posted on 06/22/2010

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Almost half males in my family have theirs done! His daddy jas his done and yes if he doesn't want it when he is older he can take it out! I had my ears peirced twice in either ear and it doesn't scar!!

Michele - posted on 06/02/2010

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I'm not a fan of having boys ears pierced,even when they are older. However, it is your kid,regardless of who you live with, and your decision to do it or not.

Jocelyn - posted on 06/02/2010

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No piercing regardless of gender; wait until he can make the decision on his own! Aside from that, I have found that one of the main reasons that parents do pierce their babies ears so damn early is because their girl looks like a boy! If you bling up your son be prepared for a lot of "oh what a cute girl".

Jawaka - posted on 06/02/2010

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Both of my boys have their left ear pierced just like daddy. I didn't think twice about it. My older son was about 10 mths old when I pierced him and his twin sister and our last son was about 3 mths old, a couple weeks after it was deemed ok. It truly is a personal decision. If they are unhappy with the decision, they can choose to not wear an earring(as I do most days).

Nyssa - posted on 05/27/2010

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This is something I would let them decide when they get older, boy or girl. Do you plan on piercing both his ears? If you don't mind everyone thinking he is a girl, I guess that is up to you. I have all boys, and even without pierced ears, sometimes(when they were babies) people would think they were girls even when they were in all blue. Piercing your childs ears now would make people think that even more. It is up to you, though.

Abbie - posted on 05/27/2010

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I think its wrong! Fine if he wants to do it when he is older, but you doing that to him as an infant, that hole is always visable!!!!!!!!!

User - posted on 05/27/2010

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No piercing for babies whatever the gender is. Make it an earned privilege later in life.

La - posted on 05/27/2010

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Most girls want their ears pierced...most boys do not. I pierced my daughter's ears at 7 months. If I had a boy I wouldn't have done it at all, but that is just my opinion on it.

Emma - posted on 05/27/2010

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This decision is yours to make. The only thing is which is the same for a boy or girl is that the child may not like the fact they have pierced ears when they are older and maybe for a boy the chance of him not liking it is a little stronger. Good luck in your decision.

Krista - posted on 05/27/2010

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I'm not a fan of piercing babies' ears, regardless of their gender.

As far as that goes, though, it is far less common for boys to have their ears pierced than it is for girls. That is probably why they are so hesitant.

My recommendation, for what it's worth, is to wait until he asks for it. He might not want his ears pierced. And if he does, you can use it as something for him to sort of strive towards -- maybe as a reward for good grades or something.

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