Sean - posted on 02/12/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
Can someone help me?
I Love my wife deeply and felt she is my soul mate we have been married to my wife for 18 years come May 17 2015. We have 4 biological kids together 2 girls One 16 and One 13 and 2 boys age 9 and 7.
I was just informed by an outside source my oldest daughter has tried weed supposedly only one time and did not like it.
I asked my wife if she knew about this and she said, yes....
I’m shocked, hurt, angry and feel betrayed I was kept in the dark about something so major, and I should not of found out 2nd hand by accident.
I’m i justified for feeling this way?
My wife just happened to ask her in conversation in talking about things and she told her yes she tried it but didn’t like it.
My wife tole me she was NOT told in confidence by our daughter, so it wasn't a violation of breaking a promise or trust.
My wife just felt that I didn't need to know and I cant seem to process this at all as we are both actively involved in all our kids lives. She says she talked to her and handled it, but we are both her parents and I feel as her Dad I should of been told by my spouse out of respect and decency of a relationship and bond I thought we had not only as parents but also as husband and wife.
If were a team partners as husband and wife and also as parents shouldn't we be informed of something so major as this, especially if it was NOT told to her in confidence.
Can someone help me process this feeling of being hurt and betrayed please?