Kicking a 16 yr old out who continues illegal activities

Harmonie - posted on 07/26/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My step son is not allowed at his mothers. Myll the cops we have to pay lega husband foundl fees and we are maxed out he dropped out of school 2 loaded guns in our home he continues to sell dope from our home if we call the police we are the ones paying the legal fees and we are maxed out we have to move because of him.

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Glenda - posted on 07/27/2016

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Why is he not allowed at his Mother's? If he is on house arrest, does he not have a monitor on his ankle? It appears you are having to do this all alone and your DH his Dad is not supporting you or helping.

If he is old enough to quit school then he is old enough to get out on his own. I would not bail him out of jail, pay his fines, or let him back in my house. If he's own mother doesn't allow him to her house then why should you his step mother? The police can come at anytime and confiscate anything and everything on your property because of his drug business. I would have him arrested or let his parole officer know he is still doing the same ole things. Then most of the time they will send them for rehab. I think he certainly doesn't not need to be in your home with loaded guns and drugs.

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2016

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As a step-parent you really are in a tough spot, you cannot make unilateral decisions for this child or about his legal issues. I would urge you to consult an attorney, just one visit which is usually free, to ask what your personal possible criminal consequences could be for living in a home where illegal activity and illegal weapons are stored.

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2016

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As a step-parent you really are in a tough spot, you cannot make unilateral decisions for this child or about his legal issues. I would urge you to consult an attorney, just one visit which is usually free, to ask what your personal possible criminal consequences could be for living in a home where illegal activity and illegal weapons are stored.

Harmonie - posted on 07/26/2016

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Right its hard im the step parent if it was my kid id handle it just like yall say but im kind of jyst atuck in the middle its sad but im avout to leave. I cant deal with him

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2016

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You do not have to pay his fees, you let him sit in jail until his trial. If he has a fine; you get a juvenile court judge to order him to do community service or whatever in order to pay the fines. The longer you hold those guns, makes you an accessory to the illegal possession of a firearm. I would call the police dept and talk to a detective and ask about turning them over. Unless you obtained them for him, I can't imagine you'd be arrested, but you are liable for what happens under your roof.

Harmonie - posted on 07/26/2016

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I think he takes off when we sleep at night. We have taken everything from him he still figures it out just wish they'd arrest him already. He has 5 felony for guns from when he lived with his mom. We just tool em yesterday so im hoping my husband turns em in.

Harmonie - posted on 07/26/2016

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That's the problem hes a minor so court fines are our responsibility its nuts we have taken every thing he doesnt care. This is nuts we live in a good neighborhood do you think they will arrest us cuz I doubt the guns are legal you wouldn't believe he told us we owe him money now. Never been through anything like this

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2016

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I agree, you have allowed him to continue to access pot and sell it somehow; if he were allowed no mail, no guests, no privacy; he'd not be able to sell week.
The guns is an obvious answer; turn them over to the police. They can track the actual "owner" as your son cannot own a gun yet; they were either stolen or illegally obtained. What if one of those guns has been used in a crime? Get them to the police. Pull the reins way in as well. Everyone here knows I am a fan of taking away all of life's bonuses, shelter and food is all he really needs from you.

Jodi - posted on 07/26/2016

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So why does he even have a room you can go through? A room with a mattress, a few blankets, a torch and basic clothes. That's it. Even a bedroom door is a privilege. So is hot water......

Sorry, but you don't follow my rules, you don't get to have life's privileges. You have to EARN those.

Loaded guns? Fuck. Confiscate them and hand them in to the police. If they are legal, then your gun laws are fucked. Selling dope? Get evidence and let the police know.

Why are you maxed out on legal fees? Stop representing him. let him pay the consequences. It's long past time.

Harmonie - posted on 07/26/2016

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Like I said we went through his room and found them not ours. And my curser had jumped all over so it didn't make sense. We are not allowing to do any of it the police know about it and have done nothing. We have taken every thing an flushed it he continues to do it at night when we have to sleep for work. He is on house arrest and only 16 so we cant kick him out like old school. We dont know how he continues to the Marijuana we feel trapped

Jodi - posted on 07/26/2016

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I'm just going to say, your post is kind of all over the place. Whose guns are they? (and why are they loaded....seriously, why do you keep LOADED guns in your home, you are asking for trouble there. Guns and ammunition should be kept separately) And why the FUCK are you allowing him to sell dope out of your home? Somewhere along the line, you haven enable this. I'm not sure, though, what advice you are after?

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