Kicking while getting diaper changed and clothes changed. I don't feel this is normal.

Jill - posted on 12/09/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )




Donnie can't convey what he is trying to say. So he throws tantrums and kicks us when he is being changed. I am 7 mo. preg. I don't feel this is normal. He is 16 mo.


Laura - posted on 12/10/2010




That is actually a very normal stage of behavior! At that age kids can't quite communicate there wishes effectively and are enjoying the benefits of being mobile. Stopping to change diapers and clothes interferes with that mobility and they can't express their displeasure with words. So tantrums become the communication method they use. Almost every child goes through this stage--even my own well-behaved, normally quite pleasant daughter did this. : )

The stickers on the hands was a brilliant idea! Anything to distract the child and encourage positive behavior can work. Set your expectations--being cooperative during these "change" times--then reward the positive behavior. Stickers work great, small treats (though using food as a reward is debatable, it is still an option to consider) or small toys can work. For my daughter we turned it into a game with a special "rag", a burp cloth my MIL had made and given us. We used this time to play peek-a-boo and "where's Ceridwyn?" games. It seemed to keep her active enough that it worked for us and the tantrums stopped pretty quickly.

One last piece of advice: Try not to stress too much over the behavior. Kids are notoriously perceptive when it comes to reading a parent's stress level and then feeding off of it. By remaining as calm and relaxed as you can, you reduce the stress that you have and consequently your son won't have as much to feed of of. It's tough, I know, but diaper and clothes changes are routine and there is no reason for struggles. Remain calm, set your expectations and reinforce them with a reward for positive behavior and this stage of your son's development will soon be over. Hope this helps and good luck!

Bridget - posted on 12/10/2010




completely normal!! For us nappy change is usually a huge battle - my bub is 18 months! I took the advice of another mum and have started giving my little one stickers if he will lie down and let me change his bum. I just have to hold up the sticker sheet and he lies down on his mat and gets a sticker on the back of each hand. He then plays with them long enough for me to change him quickly!! Doesn't always work but now its only a battle once a day rather than every nappy change!!! Good luck!

Casey - posted on 12/09/2010




It's normal, they all go through that little stage where they have to throw a hit over everything and it is because they can't fully express themselves yet by talking, my son was shocking when I was trying to change him or dress him he would wiggle around, kick, scream and try to climb off the change table so I had to try and distract him so I got some little matchbox cars I think they were only $2 each and I left them on the change table in a container and he was allowed to play with one every time I changed him so change time started to be a bit more fun, you could also try hanging a mobile above the change table to distract him or putting some pictures of animals or trucks or somthing on the wall near the change table, anything that is going to be a distraction for him will help.
Get used to the tantrums cause they get much much worse as they get closer to 2 and once they hit 2 OMG look out lol.


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Kelli - posted on 12/21/2010




It's normal. My daughter does the same thing and she is 20 months old. I am hoping she gets over it soon though.

Charlie - posted on 12/18/2010




So normal !!

You should read happiest toddler on the block it really helped for nappy change time and other toddler melt down moments .

Britany - posted on 12/18/2010




My son used to fight diaper changes. I used to give him a toy to play with while I changed his diapers. It would distract him long enough so I could get the diaper changed without a fight.

Laura - posted on 12/17/2010




Normal, My 4 year old did it to me when I was prego with his brother and now bro is doing it to now that I'm prego again. It gets really annoying when they get a good shot at my stomach.

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my son is 15 months and since he was born has kicked and squirmed at pretty much evry diaper and clothing change. i've tried restraining him with the straps of the changing pad, i've tried distracting him, i've tried reasoning with him. nothing works. hopefully your son will outgrow it soon

Lavanya - posted on 12/17/2010




my son is 22 months and he does the same with me ya that is very normal they feels that is fun :)

Barb - posted on 12/16/2010




Jill, this is very normal. Your child is trying to set boundries. It is up to you to try to reign him in. This is just his first big push. There will be lots more to deal with. By installing with him as to who is the boss now will prevent a lot of problems later. Once your second child is born, you will most likely have to go over "who the boss" rules on a regular basis until he understands that he new baby isn't a threat. God Bless and best of luck

Tabby - posted on 12/16/2010




My daughter is 11 months and has been doing this for a few months. I started making a game of diaper changes and getting dressed. Like I'll give her the diaper and tell her to open it for me (she just pulls the tabs lol) and that keeps her busy long enough for me to wipe her off. For getting dressed I'll let her stand up and tell her I'm going to steal and hide her hand and ask if she can find it... she'll usually push it through the sleeve and gets excited she found it. With pants I'll ask her which foot she wants first and to pull them up I make a funny noise when I tug them up.

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I have this problem now with my 17 month old daughter. It's so bad that sometimes I don't WANT to change her diaper or get her dressed. I do because I know I have to, but it is really exhausting. I'm almost 5 months pregnant now, too, so I get it. I was actually messing with the idea of attempting to potty train her so that I had one less thing to fight with her about, lol. Imagine that, a 17 month old potty trained.... I would love not to be kicked in the face anymore!

Kate CP - posted on 12/16/2010




Very normal. Give him words to use when he throws a fit. I would tell my daughter "I know you're angry. You're angry, aren't you?" and she would start to calm down. Giving them the vocabulary they need to communicate is important.

Heather - posted on 12/16/2010




My daughter is 9 months old and when she tried to flip over while getting a diaper changed, it became impossible to keep her on her back. I started covering her face with a blanket and played peek-a-boo and that made her stop. Give it a try. If there is no blanket, I give her a toy to keep her occupied.

User - posted on 12/10/2010




Completely normal. At this age they often don't want to lie down to be changed, when there are much more fun things to do. Both of mine preferred to be standing up to be changed when they were toddlers.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/10/2010




My daughter is 8 mos, and she kicks becouse she is happy and thinks it is fun...oh the fun of wiping poop off of her legs and feet!

Meghan - posted on 12/10/2010




totally normal. My suggestion is scotch tape. Give them a piece during the change and it will keep him busy-maybe even for a few mins after!

Margaret - posted on 12/09/2010




Well I had the same problem not to long ago with my grand daughter, she was about 16 months as well, she is now 27 months. I would just hold her legs until she stopped, not hurting her of course. She no longer does that. she actually stopped a few weeks after that. Try and stay calm with him, if you show frustration he will most likely continue.

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