kids close in age

Helen - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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how close in age are your kids? do you find it better or harder work having them close together for further apart?

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Adrienne - posted on 08/26/2011

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My girls are 28.5 Months apart. I have a 2.5 yr old girl born Jan 16, 2009 and a soon to be 3 month old girl born June 1, 2011. The age gap between them is not all that challenging but at times if the baby is crying, the older one has to get in there too and it annoying if anything! She did regress from potty training though, hoping she will swing back into it but she also realizes that she is NOT the baby anymore so there is jealousy. She does hurt her sister and knows that she has done wrong because she gets a time out in her room. They have thier cute moments together and thier bad times too, its what being a sibling is all about and this is only the beginning but you know what.... I wouldnt change it for the world. I love my little girls to the moon and back forever and ever

Cheryl - posted on 06/25/2009

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I have a boy and a girl who are 18 months and 1 day apart and I wouldn't have it any other way. It has been hard work and still can be but I wasn't out of "baby mode" before number 2 came along and just slotted right in with nappies etc. They play great together and amuse each other no end, often driving me to distraction when they know what they're talking about but I don't. Definitely worth the first 2/3 years of hard work.

Helen - posted on 06/24/2009

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Thank you all for your comments, I have a 7 year old boy and a 3 month old girl. The age gap was not planned, more due to medical reasons. We would like our next 1 and lacey to be close in age as that is what we always planned. I am interested in how everyone else finds it with small and big age gaps. Nathan always complains that he doesnt have another boy to play cars with, when his friends are busy. He loves having a little sister though but as she is not mobile yet he doesnt really know how to play with her.

Chinggay - posted on 06/24/2009

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I have three kid; 14, 8 & 4. Not by choice but by circumstance. I had a hard time getting pregnant. My mother though had it closer, my younger siblings are only 1 year apart. If you are asking for sibling rivalry, it is inherent in whatever age gap there is. If, on the other hand, you are asking for the physical work, then I would say to space them 2 to 3 years apart.

Shelley - posted on 06/24/2009

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Mine are 15 months apart; it was hard but it was a lot of fun having them grow up together. The most difficult part to me is that when everything is over it is over. I mean, one walks, so does the other, one learns to ride the bike so does the other, one reads so does the other, one learns to drive so does the other. I think this has caused it all to go by much faster and this way you don't get to enjoy it over again like watching one grow and then doing it again with a younger child.

Jennifer - posted on 06/24/2009

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I had 3 in 3 1/2 years and think it's hard work, but still wonderful! There is 15 months difference in the oldest two and then a little over 2 years between the youngest two.
One of the hardest things was continuing nursing my oldest while I was pregnant with the second. My obgyn was not thrilled, but I didn't have any major problems.

I really love the way my kids get along now. They are 4, 3, and 14 months. The older two have been playing well together for awhile and now they are beginning to try to include the little one as well.

Briony - posted on 06/24/2009

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My two are 161/2 months apart. We planned it because we wanted to run all the nappies and baby bits together, and also so that they could play with the same toys, and do the same activities and hopefully get on. It has been very very hard work (mostly because my youngest (a wee boy) was such a moan) I basically had two babies, and now have two toddlers. John is now 17 months and Isabella is 3 in September and it is now just starting to get easier. I can now see why we did it, and am starting to appreciate the short age gap - they go to the same groups, and are very affectionate together and play together very nicely (some of the time). But most of all they are great pals and when John can walk and talk it will be even easier. It has been really really hard though. But to be honest, I think it would be hard whatever age gap you have, but I think give me another year, and I'll be even gladder for the short gap.

Jamie - posted on 06/24/2009

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Mine are close together. I have six, and we are expecting #7 in December. They are all one year apart except the middle two, which are two years apart. I think it is easier on the mindset for us because we are already in the thick of baby mode, diaper mode, etc. However, I have friends whose children are very spaced apart, and while that means they have to reconfigure their mindset from school mode to baby mode, they love it because it allows them to focus so much time and attention on their baby. I agree with Betsy on the point that it is so much fun to watch those close in age together, but I think it can work both ways!

Mandy - posted on 06/23/2009

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My kids are 20months apart at first my little boy would not have anything to do with my little girl when she was born as she got older he didn't like it when she mess with his things now some days they play great other days you have to pull them apart It was a little harder having them that close but I wouldn't change it

Trish - posted on 06/23/2009

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Although I don't know about my own children, since i have a 3 year old and one on the way but I can tell you from growing up with a big age gap what it was like. My and my little sister are 10 years apart. I hate it even till this day and so does my sister. I was always forced to babysit her because i was old enough and more often then not was playing the parent figure as well. I never really played with her since by the time she was old enough to play with barbies, I was interested in boys and high school. Me and my sister have a very strrange relationship, she often still thinks of me as a mother figure then her sister and our communication with each other is slim at best. My sister is only know understanding how hard it was for me since she and my daughter are 11 years apart. But aside from that pretty soon I'll know if it is better to have them close together since my two children will be 3 years apart.

Carrie - posted on 06/23/2009

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I have two that are 13 months apart from each other and I think it is great. I plan on not having anymore at least for a while. It was easy for me when we had the second one. One off the bottle and another one on. Just got one out of diapers and not too much longer the other and then I am done. They like the same stuff which means I don't have a big age gap to figure out for toys or movies and such. They can play with each other and share toys well as much as they can. I really enjoy them being close in age. I guess it was for me, but maybe not for everyone.

Margaret - posted on 06/23/2009

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speech, social development....they can become socially dependant on each other, unfortunately there is no easy fix splitting them up isnt always the answer but they do need to be at some stage and need to have time apart, doing so too early when they start school can cause further problems though.

Rebekah - posted on 06/23/2009

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Quoting Margaret:

my eldest two are one year and one week apart in age

my youngest two are 3 years apart in age....

having them close together is ALOT of work but well worth it they become very close but there are risks it holds many of the same development hazards which are evident with twins...

the larger age gap...was much cruisier I wasnt carrying two infants and it wasnt so crowded on the cot and car seat side of things... much cheaper as everything was handed down alot easier rather than shared or needing double....but they arent as close there is quite a gap between them and they dont relate as well as the elder two...

I have 3 children all girls so hopefully that all makes sense


Just wondering what the "development hazards which are evident with twins" are...??



My boys were born 1 minute apart :) I don't have any others so I cannot comment on which is better or harder, etc. We hope to have another one about 2 years after these boys, if all goes to plan, but we are doing IVF.

Margaret - posted on 06/23/2009

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my eldest two are one year and one week apart in age

my youngest two are 3 years apart in age....

having them close together is ALOT of work but well worth it they become very close but there are risks it holds many of the same development hazards which are evident with twins...

the larger age gap...was much cruisier I wasnt carrying two infants and it wasnt so crowded on the cot and car seat side of things... much cheaper as everything was handed down alot easier rather than shared or needing double....but they arent as close there is quite a gap between them and they dont relate as well as the elder two...

I have 3 children all girls so hopefully that all makes sense

Donna - posted on 06/23/2009

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I have a 16 n 14yr old boys when they were little they had each other to play n turn to as they r gettting old more competition betweenthem eg school work, sports but all in good taste. I wouldnt have it any other way.

Betsy - posted on 06/23/2009

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I have had them very spread apart in age and VERY close in age with our youngest 3 (3 babies in one year with a single and then twins back-to-back). It's definitely more work having them that close in age, but watching them together is precious. I've done it with 3 in a yr and 3 in 16 yrs (now 19, 12 and 3), and I love it both ways.

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