kids dad

Kari - posted on 03/24/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My kids dad keeps bad mouthing myself and my new husband to my kids. I dont ever say anything bad about him as i hate him with a passion but i keep it to myself. I dont know what to do im so irritated that he would constantly do this

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Jana - posted on 03/24/2015

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My experience is that the only person who's actions you have control over is yourself. There is not much you can do if both parents don't understand that what we do and say affects our kids and BOTH parents should always put their children first. What i have learned to do is to be secure with the parent that I am and to never speak of his father in a negative way.
Regardless of what the other parent does, if you maintain the parent YOU are, it will all work itself in the end. I've always tried to teach my son that it doesn't matter what someone says about you, it's how you view yourself that matters...I respect who I am so words are just words in my opinion.
In the end, when they have grown, if you have been consistent in being kind towards his father to the best of your ability and have shown respect towards him regardless of how he behaves...your kids will grow up and see what each of you has contributed and most likely have more respect for the parent who has been consistent, loving and respectful while raising them. The parent who doesn't? Well...he will see the results won't he? Good luck and just be you! :)

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