Elisel - posted on 01/15/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
my daughter 12 and son 8 like their dads GF but my daughter openly says she does not like my BF. When I sit with her to have open conversation about WHY, Or if her feelings are from underlying issues about the divorce she says she has no reason except she just doesn't like him. the BF is a full time single dad. I spend all my kid free time with him and his kids(15 and 10) and about 25% of my kid time with all 4 kids and 2 adults. My 8 yr old son likes him enough to tell people its his step dad. I was shocked when I heard him say that! the Ex's GF is very young, Barely 10 yrs older than my daughter and younger than my kids cousins. so im thinking she views it like a friend or cousin. I don't get mad that she likes the GF I would rather it be that than hate.
I have plans however to move closer or move in with my BF in the coming summer. One min she enjoys being at his house the next she hates. One min she wants to be at dads the next she texts me and wants to come home.
I, the mom, have primary custody with the dad seeing the kids 4 days per month. Zero extra days in summer and alternating school breaks.
so is she just being 12 nearly 13? Is it because I am the mom and always been the primary caretaker? Is it just harder for daughters to accept new men/dad figures than it is sons?