Brandon - posted on 12/28/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I found myself in a tough situation after losing my wife to throat cancer back in 2005. I have been by myself since then. I was married twice, once when I was 19 and again at 24. I stayed married to the wife of 20 years until she died. She had a daughter whom I loved and continue to love to this day. In the course of my life I met a divorced mom of two wonderful kids. I fell head over heels in love with the mom and her kids and was very fearful of telling her how I felt. I did everything with her, spent time, watched her children, we grew very close..then one day she just jumped out of my life. She tried dating other men but never has found the right guy. The kids still love me with all their heart and I have contact with them regularly and she doesn't prevent it. I want to do what is best and right for this situation. I work in the school where the kids attend and see them almost every day. Ocassionally I pick the kids up and bring them to grammas house. I guess it hurts me more to know I'll never fully be in their lives but I don't want to just disappear either. I love all three but don't want to be selfish and hurt them all. I have been told that I should break off this relationship immediately by male friends who don't evidentally understand kids. The real father of the girls is none exsistant and won't take them on his visiting days. They come back glad that they don't have to stay with him. The girls are 8 and 10. Can anyone steer me in the right direction? I know that mom's always seem to have the right words...but if I'm overstepping my bounds I need to know and act gracefully and with love.