Kids who go into tantrum ...

Servanne - posted on 02/03/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

10

0

0

I am not a mom and never will ..... with the way my father treated my mother and other men treated me, i am not inclined to think there are so many good men around that i would have trusted enough to start a family where there was love, trust, stabililty and safety..... so i would not be of any good advice to any one ... but love your kids and show them there is a better way to solve problems than violence .... talking things through and finding compromise so that it is not always the same one that gives in and the same one that gets everthying he/she wants .....

2 Comments

View replies by

Servanne - posted on 02/03/2013

10

0

0

Counselling will never cure me ....... i know it .....true love and caring from someone would have ..

I am old now and responsible enough to know that it would be wrong for me to adopt a child ....though it would really be good for me to be around them and certainly take care of them in some ways.

Women need a good man by their side who loves them, supports them and is faithful ..... and then it is safe and good to have children ....

The world is in great need for such men ......

I will continue to survive but counselling is not an option for me ...... what would be good is to move in a place far away from those who hurt me ....it may not solve all the problems but it will certainly solve some ....

Finally, this world is terrible ... but if men dont change the way they treat women either in the name of their selfish, lustful and irresponsible nature or in the name of the religions that they created and that protect male privileges, rights, seilfish behaviours when the purpose of religiosn is to turn men into good men and faithful and committed husband and fathers, more women will end up making babies on their own and steer clear of men ....... and men should not blame women for doing so, they should blame themselves for the way they have treated women since the beginning of time and with the approval of religions in many many cases

Ariana - posted on 02/03/2013

1,309

0

624

You know maybe you should seek councelling to deal with the things that have happened to you.

Although there are bad people out there that doesn't make every man a bad person or make every man violent. You may want to seek a councellor to help you work through the past experiences and move forward so it isn't controlling your life now.

Also you do not need a man to have a child. You could adopt a child, there are tons of older children who need families. I'm not saying you should if you don't want to, but if you ever thought of parenting but don't want to purely because you aren't with a man you can always adopt an older child who needs a parent.

Just some suggestion. You are right though, kids definitely need to be treated with love and respect and they deserve safety and stability. I hope things work out for you

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms