Kindergarden girl refusing school .

Alicia - posted on 06/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




She would have a battle everyday among the parents and teachers . She would scream and cry when we are going to bring her into the classroom . However , when we forcefully get her into the classroom , she would be fine for the rest of the day(We have only tried once though) . We have also already tried ALL different ways but all doesn't help! She have been absent for almost everyday . What should I do ? :(


Dove - posted on 06/07/2013




If you are the mom... you take her butt to school and leave her there. She has learned that by putting up a fit... she doesn't have to go, so of course she is going to throw a fit and stay home. That can't happen... unless you are home schooling her instead.

My son used to freak out to go to preschool, but he learned that freaking out did no good... so he stopped. He still didn't LIKE to go and we had a few random mornings of tears, but after the initial freak out period... I have always been able to leave him at school happy and now he is (currently) looking forward to starting Kindergarten.

He does have issues with anxiety and I am currently in the process of trying to get him evaluated, but he knows that staying home from school is not an option and while he may whine about going sometimes.... he always goes.


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Amy - posted on 06/07/2013




School is not an option and where I live kindergarten is mandatory. If my child missed extreme amounts of days then I could face jail time. Try to set up a reward system every time she goes without being forced she earns a sticker, after so many stickers she gets a prize.

Obviously what she's been doing has worked very well for her so don't expect she's going to stop overnight. I suggest asking the school to have a teacher, principal, or school psychologist meet you at the door and just hand her over to them and you just leave. Our school actually prefers that parents don't walk the kids to the classroom because it prolongs the good bye and just disrupts the whole class.

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