Labor

Shannyn - posted on 11/17/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am 32 weeks pregnant with baby number two. Baby #1 is now 7 and I feel like I have forgotten everything about labor. I'm starting to get nervous again and was hoping for some tips and reminders of labor.

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Jennifer - posted on 11/18/2013

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It wouldn't hurt to grab a copy of what to expect when expecting from the local library. Although, make sure it is a current copy. Take a tour of the hospital you are planning on using and that will kick start things to remember.
Things to think about:
How did your last labor go?
Natural, little something, epidural, C-Section, tear, cut ?
Remember to stay on your feet and less on your back to have gravity assist as much and as long as possible. Stay home as long as possible.
Procedures at the hospitals vary from hospital to hospital and from last time to current even if you use the same hospital and Doctors.
Squatting or sitting on a ball helps open canal.

My kids are 17, 11 & today 1 years old. Even though big gap in between Labors progressively went quicker.

I forgot things like needing pads for at home for afterwards, extra diapers wipes, breast pads.

Amy - posted on 11/18/2013

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Sorry thought I responding to something else before. Your welcome! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. And of course that little one:-)

Enna - posted on 11/18/2013

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I have the same age gap with my kids. I sent the older one to a siblings class, but that was about it. I didn't feel the need to brush up on everything else. It all comes back to you quickly. AND your second will probably be completely different from the first, so you'll have to relearn some things anyway.
There are probably going to be a lot of things they do differently at the hospital. The hospitals are even more crazy about keeping the baby with you etc. Doctors and nurses will push you more to breastfeed if you can. They gave me an epidural sooner and it was on a pump (with the first I had no control.)
Start thinking about a plan for the hospital if you haven't already. Talk to your doctor about what you want. Make sure you've toured the hospital, even if you've been there before. Write everything down, and stand up for yourself if people are trying to get you to bend on what you've decided. Sometimes you have to make changes on the fly, but other times they're just trying to make it easier on them. (No disrespect for L&D staff, they have a hard job and they're trying to make it easier for mom/baby too!)
I thought things went better the second time around because I already knew what to expect. For me I forgot so quickly about the pain, and sure enough it happened the second time too! As soon as my daughter was in my arms, everything else was forgotten.
Try to do something special for your older child too. We had our daughters give each other small gifts at the hospital (yeah I know the newborn didn't actually do anything, but the point was that it was a cute gesture and made the older daughter feel good too). We also made sure that other than my husband and I, my older daughter was the first one to see the baby. She got to come in for a couple of minutes before we even let our parents in. I really thought that was nice. It gave us a brief family moment together.

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We all tend to forget, 7 years or even a year. Otherwise, we would not try for another one :) As much as I prepared for the first one (lamaz,...) I did not do any planing with the 2nd one. I did not refresh my mind on the breathing techniques and stages of labor and all. Trying to think about them the last few weeks made me more nervous so I avoid any books or notes that has to do with labor. But I sure regret it. Be strong not like me. You have experienced it before I hope it will be easier the second time.

Amy - posted on 11/17/2013

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I had a 7 yr gap between my 2 children as well. I had the same fear 5yrs ago as well. Believe me when I say that no 2 pregnancies are a like. same with labor. But either way labor is something your body does not forget. It just kicks into mommy mode. And another fear I had was since my kids were 7 yrs apart... would I forget how to hold my baby feed him etccc.. you would b surprised on how much your motherly instinct kicks in. Enjoy it. You may wanna brush up on new regulations for car seats etcc.(car seats are only regulatory for 7 yrs after the manufactors date on the carseat) They change dramatically over that period of time.

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