S - posted on 04/13/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
I had my daughter at 24 weeks and got all sorts of comments along the lines of being lucky because my stomach didn't get big or not having to go thru "real" labor because she was smaller. These comments REALLY pissed me off. It's not like your body only goes thru half the contractions because the baby is small or like your body only dilates halfway. Obviously pushing wasn't as painful because she was smaller but I really hated how folks discounted like experience like it was nothing more than going to the bathroom.
I am now pregnant again and have to see a perinatologist, hopefully to prevent early labor again. The perinatologist mentioned during one of the visits that contractions are stronger when the baby is bigger and basically made a comment indicating that labor with my daughter must have been easy. This was kind of discouraging to hear although I really wanted to retort that I'd like to see a man go thru any form of labor and then have the nerve to comment that it was easier than "x,y or z". So I'm wondering have any of you had a preemie (micropreemie) then gone on to deliver a full term baby? Were the contractions different or more painful? Was pushing harder? Would you call one easier than the other or are the experiences fairly similar?