Ladies i need help bad, my mother-n-law hates me sooo bad!!!

Ashley - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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my mother-n-law hates me so much. she had called the child service on me saying im relating to child abuse and neglected my babies, and also that im doing drugs. i had people come out to my house and search. the father of my babies refuse to take the drug test, cuz we had to do it before from my hateful sister. and we had no need to do it again. they are coming over some time to get are drug test done, but first we are going to leave and tallk to a bunch of people, and see what we can do. i love my babies so much.

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Sheena - posted on 03/23/2009

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i was in children sevices for 11 years and if u are not doing anything wrong and they keep caling on you childrens services will just ignore the calls

MarthaLynn - posted on 03/23/2009

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Well, I had something similar happen to me!  My mother-in-law got Child Services onto me and I like to never got rid of them!  Even if you aren't doing anything wrong, they can (and will) make your life a living hell.  You have to understand that unless they investigate, they won't know who actually IS a bad mother or parents.  You just make sure that they don't have a leg to stand on, and that's all you can do.  Pass your drug tests and make sure you are doing ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING you are supposed to be doing!    Just jump through their hoops and prove that nothing is going on in your house or to your kids.   That's all you CAN do at this point.

Delia - posted on 03/23/2009

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ask anyone that knows you are a good mom to write a letter just in case they try anything more. and keep loving and caring for those babies! Good luck!

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Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2013

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Ashley, my husband have a very mean, disrespectful, and spiteful mother as well. I do not give her the title as mother because to me she does not displace motherly qualities. Although she has never went that far she has caused numerous problems within our marriage of thirteen years, but we are not easily broken. Submit to a drug test and I am sure once you pass Children Services will know exactly where the problem lies and they will let up on you. Wishing you the best with your family as well as this situation .

Leanne - posted on 03/24/2009

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Hi.

Sorry to hear this...i dont see eye to eye with my mum in law but she has never done that to me.

My mum in law is very over powing and she thinks i have took her baby away (my bf),

she tried to tell me i was doing so much wrong with my daughter that i started to doubt my abilty as a young mum but i had a good scream and decided i had to stay strong and i told her how i felt...that was 6mnths ago and its only now we start going down to see her but my bf made her say sorry and now thay no they cant hurt me or boss me bcus i no wat im doing is right and thats that.

Stay strong and dont be pushed around by these horrid people...it will be them who miss out on your gawjus babys xxxx hope this helps xxx

Ashley - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Emily:



Quoting Ashley:

Adam the father of the babies said that we're leaving tonight, going somewhere for awhile untill they get them. they had left threats on our voice messages telling us they are going to break in and kill us. well adams mothers boyfriend said that to adam and everyone else said it to me. i cant be here. im not running away from anything. im keeping my family safe. i dont know if the officers going to do anythin. they heard all of the messages. that they had threated us with. im scared. the officer were watching my house for them. adam works 2nd shift.im just not going to take the chance and staying here anymore. i just dont know what to do though, im scared of them.





So, you have the police involved? Good! Please get in touch with the social worker. You do not want them to think you are avoiding them. I currently work with CPS- yes, we can be a pain, but for the most part assesments do not lead to investegations. Please show up, talk to the worker, pass your drug test and let them know that this is the result of a false report.  Do you have an open case already fromwhen your sister called or was it closed unsubstantiated? Some SWers consider noncompliance or avoidance to be the worst thing a parent can do, you don't want to do anything to make yourself look guilty. PM me if you want with more details and i can advise .






yes the cases are close soon as they got the test results back. but about the officers. yeah brain the boyfriend as good connections with them. i have no idea how. he is a bad person. i dont want to do anything that would make me look bad. adam's dad is telling him want to do. thanyou going to eat.

Ashley - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Sheena:

i was in children sevices for 11 years and if u are not doing anything wrong and they keep caling on you childrens services will just ignore the calls



My older sister is the same way as adams mother. hateful people. im nice caring and help his family out. when adam and i was at the movie theaters on day. the movie had just started. we had receive a phone call from his mothers saying brain her boyfriend was beating her and josh, adam younger brother. please come and get us. we did. 3 hours later she wantedto go home. she needed her drugs she was going through wip flashes. we did. she has her own mother hating her. its too sad.i had the children service call on me 4 times now. im tired of going through, this with hateful people, that they hate there life so lets hurt ashley's. i had to take a drug test every time in front of my babies. they swapped my mouth. they wanted to yesterday but adam had refuse, cuz we shouldnt have to. we went through this so many time. and now my oldest son is 4. he's going to remember that day. and we didnt want him to see us getting swappes again, 

Emily - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

Adam the father of the babies said that we're leaving tonight, going somewhere for awhile untill they get them. they had left threats on our voice messages telling us they are going to break in and kill us. well adams mothers boyfriend said that to adam and everyone else said it to me. i cant be here. im not running away from anything. im keeping my family safe. i dont know if the officers going to do anythin. they heard all of the messages. that they had threated us with. im scared. the officer were watching my house for them. adam works 2nd shift.im just not going to take the chance and staying here anymore. i just dont know what to do though, im scared of them.


So, you have the police involved? Good! Please get in touch with the social worker. You do not want them to think you are avoiding them. I currently work with CPS- yes, we can be a pain, but for the most part assesments do not lead to investegations. Please show up, talk to the worker, pass your drug test and let them know that this is the result of a false report.  Do you have an open case already fromwhen your sister called or was it closed unsubstantiated? Some SWers consider noncompliance or avoidance to be the worst thing a parent can do, you don't want to do anything to make yourself look guilty. PM me if you want with more details and i can advise .

Ashley - posted on 03/24/2009

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Quoting Delia:

ask anyone that knows you are a good mom to write a letter just in case they try anything more. and keep loving and caring for those babies! Good luck!


Adam's Dad side and his mother's sister's,brothers, mother are on our side they are going to do there best, they all said that  we need to get out of town, they had threated us. they were going to break inand hurt us. the threats are still on our phone, we show it to the police officers. but they are still around, we saw them that they were on line. Adam mom and her boyfriend is very rude and can be harmful. thank you for helping.

Ashley - posted on 03/23/2009

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Adam the father of the babies said that we're leaving tonight, going somewhere for awhile untill they get them. they had left threats on our voice messages telling us they are going to break in and kill us. well adams mothers boyfriend said that to adam and everyone else said it to me. i cant be here. im not running away from anything. im keeping my family safe. i dont know if the officers going to do anythin. they heard all of the messages. that they had threated us with. im scared. the officer were watching my house for them. adam works 2nd shift.im just not going to take the chance and staying here anymore. i just dont know what to do though, im scared of them.

Ashley - posted on 03/23/2009

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thats all i new is love my babies, this woman doesnt even know my babies, she stays in fortwayne with her abusing boyfriend. thay are hard on drugs. it just hurts really bad. my older sister does drugs and i found out i had said something to my mother, and she turn it against me. and everyone believed her. she has neglected her kids 4 times. and left the state. now we have to go through this again. im tired. do you think that letter would work?

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