Last name change

India - posted on 09/11/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hello to all. I hv been a step mom to my stepson for years, however for the last couple of years his biological mother has denied us from communicating, with him.. shes a nightmare from HELL! my husband pays his child support, wants to be an active dad, however doesnt know his where abouts.. Question here is he lives in Florida, n we were informed tht his mother changed his last name to her current boyfriend. can tht be done w/o my husbands permission? how can we find out? dont he has a say especially if he pays child support? Plse. help, dont know where to turn too.. Thank You- In need.

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Sarah - posted on 09/12/2015

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In some states you can petition to change a name, and to qualify for the change you have to publish in various newspapers for a certain duration of time. If there is no response then the petition can be granted. I know it seems ridiculous but that is an old school method. It was used when someone died, you'd publish the death in the paper, like in the personals and say "Jon Doe DOB 1-1-1 dies on 2-2-2, if you have any claim to his estate or any objection to his burial and distribution of assets, call...." it was done so if someone owed you money, or you felt you were entitled to part of the estate, you could file for said benefit. There has to be a better way now, but I know in some states this is how it still works.

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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You still haven't advised whether dad was on the birth certificate in the first place.......

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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And let's face it, if dad is not seeing his child, and not trying to see his child, you are not a step mother. You are dad's wife. That is all.

India - posted on 09/11/2015

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Lol. I c u hv nothing to do.But mk unpleasant statements. It really doesn't matter wht ur questioning its a non factor. Ty for the info u hv provided. This will be my last post to u. Enjoy.

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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Ok, well, maybe if dad isn't trying to be involved in the child's life, maybe he doesn't deserve the child as a namesake. I question whether dad was ever listed on the birth certificate in the first place???

India - posted on 09/11/2015

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Jodi i asked abt one question n u answered to the best of ur knowledge. I didn't ask for your sympathy. So once again thank you.

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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So the name of the child is more important to your husband than whether he actually has visitation access to the child???? If it were one thing at a time, I know which one I'd be focusing on. Clearly, by your answers, your husband has not ever applied for custody and visitation, so really, I have little to no sympathy. This should have been his very first step if he cared about a relationship with the child.

India - posted on 09/11/2015

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Noted on ur comment. So much more to it. We hv to deal with one issue at a time. Ty

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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I'm not sure. But quite honestly, if your husband is not visiting the child, and has not orders and is not following up on that, then he really isn't making the efforts he should be to be in his child's life.

India - posted on 09/11/2015

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Hi Jodi. Ty for ur response. We live in ny n he lives in Florida. Im just so drained from this. Is there a way tht i cn contact a clerks office birth certificate place to see if this has been done. Again ty for ur response

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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Why has your husband not got visitation orders? Generally, no, she can't just change the child's name without dad's permission, but your husband needs to get a lawyer and follow up with visitation orders.

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