laws regarding autistic children being left home alone.

Rachel - posted on 10/19/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have two brothers one who is Aspbergers (18 yr old) and one who is on the opposite end of the spectrum full blown autism (20 yrs old). The younger brother is socially awkward and gets easily upset in conversations if questions are too challenging for him. He can manage to fix himself food and do the basic ADL's howevever he always look unkept as if he hasn't showered for days, strange odor, just sits in his room playing video games for hours on end. The older one is worse and can't function very well he also still has issues with making bowel movements in his underwear and cleaning himself because you can smell it on him. Unfortunately, I don't live with them and haven't in years but my mom has always been what I consider to be neglectful with them. I should mention I have two other brothers who are not autistic (4 in total) who are older than them and even though my mom would leave for vacations and for weeks on end they always had one of the older boys at home with them. Now however everyone has moved out so it's just the two autistic boys home with mom and I just found out she's away on vacation for the week. I know that they're more well adjusted because they're used to being left alone but I still worry how safe it is for the two of them to be left alone for an entire week by themselves. I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with this or if there are any laws regarding this type of thing?

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Sarah - posted on 10/20/2016

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Contact the Department of Human Services and inquire about getting them help. This would be the same agency if you had a older person the victim of elder abuse. Even though they are not kids there are still social service agencies to protect them and provide care. Maybe they'd do better in a group home? Or an assisted living environment. If you can't find a number, you can call CPS or DCFS and ask for the information.

Dove - posted on 10/19/2016

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They are not children. They are legally considered adults unless they have been officially declared incompetent. If you are concerned you need to speak to a lawyer and/or their doctors (though w/ privacy laws that might be limiting) about the situation to discover what, if anything, can be done. If you are the one driving your brother to/from work... why not stick around and help them out yourself for a bit?

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Rachel - posted on 10/20/2016

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Thank you. In my eyes I see it as neglect or like you said similar to elder abuse but maybe im just biased and it's more normal than I thought. I definitely think I'm going to take your advice and inquire about it through the department of human services just to be on the safe side just in case of god forbid any accidental fires or whatever else.

Rachel - posted on 10/20/2016

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Thank you I appreciate it I tried googling the laws but I couldn't find what I was looking for. I don't have a relationship with my mother but since I found out she's been gone I've been checking in. It's a long history but this was what I was looking for I kind of figured once they're over 18 that's it.

Michelle - posted on 10/20/2016

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I agree with Shawnn and Dove, they are both adults in the eyes of the law so there aren't any laws about them being on their own.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/19/2016

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They are not children. They are adults.

Google it! Look up laws regarding autistic adults in your state.

Rachel - posted on 10/19/2016

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I think that's awesome and I know a ton of people who have aspergers but hes not like most of them I think he's got it a little more severe than most he's not as high functioning as others. I take him to and from work that's how I found out just today that they've been home most of the week alone and I told him I would call him regularly and come by if he needed anything but what I'm most curious about is the laws. If there are any regarding leaving children with disabilities at home for long periods of time. Im not talking about she does this once in a blue moon it's often since they were very small and there have been close calls in the past DYFS involved and such but now that they are older I'm concerned even if I told someone they wouldn't care much because they're both over the age of 18.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/19/2016

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My eldest has asperger's. He has been living on his own for three years now.

If you are that concerned, the stop in to check on them

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