Lazy Children,,,,,,,,

Amanda - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi, Thanks for taking the time to stop in here and read this, I have a 9 yr old and like all kids he has chores, i cannot get him to do his chores, When he does them i reward him by giving him money for each chore he does, Any suggestions on how to make it a daily thing with him doing his chores. Any and all comments appreciated...Thanks

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Dawn - posted on 11/09/2009

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My kids get a very clear message when it comes to chores. We do chores for two reasons. The first reason is that we all contribute to the houshold we live in. some of us contribute by providing food, warmth, etc... and some of us contribute in other ways like cleaning up. I also give my kids $$ on the weekends but I tell them that I give them money because I love them and want them to have nice things, which is another way that mom contributes. I also show my kids that mom doesn't get TV time or comuter time until her chores are done either. "So lets just get this done so we can all enjoy out time together."

Tina A - posted on 11/09/2009

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Hi Amanda, It's a ever a chore to make them do their chores I find I put more energy into trying to encouraging them i'd have it done in a third of the time.. heres what worked for me, we no longer use the word "chores" HOUSE RULES..... I write up what needs to be done and they pick what they want and anything they do is helpful, mind you they still complain but at least its their choice... hope this helps!

Nadine - posted on 11/08/2009

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We have a system set up for three kids. They have a timesheet method that is done per job. They have a max allowance amount that can be earned and if they don't do the job they don't get any money. Have had laziness creep in so now if I do the job I get the time and they may just end up owing me money. I also reming them that if they don't pitch in, I don't pitch in.....that means no transportation to sports, friends, laundry won't get done, etc. May appear mean but it is a life long lesson we are teaching. Best of luck to you.

Betsy - posted on 11/07/2009

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I agree, why are the kids able to choose if they do them or not. You are the parent, and you set the rules of the house. You want to make that clear now at 9. If they choose not to follow the rules, there are consequences, just like we all have in life. They will not respect what you say if you are giving them more power than you and the decision making of the house. Although most kids don't enjoy chores (we didn't either lol), they do like those boundaries, the structure and Mom and Dad setting the tone of the home.

Jess - posted on 11/07/2009

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Hey Amanda I have a 9yr old too and I have her do 2 things a day and at the end of the week she gets her money. I dont make it to hard or anything but i do think they are old enough to do their part. I have found that she will actually start doing more with out even being asked which is great. So the more you reward even with praise and talk about it in front of him on how great of job he does and how much it helps you the more he will want to do it. Make a chart and start rotating every week. hope it helps

Tegan - posted on 11/07/2009

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make sure the chores are age appropriate, and the other advice like no 'fun' stuff until chores are done or withdrawal of tv works with my kids. My kids do their chores when asked but I'd like to get to a point where they do them without being told...it will come I'm sure.

Sharon - posted on 11/07/2009

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There is no choice in doing their chores. You will do it or you will do nothing else. my two boys spent every free moment in their room for nearly 3 weeks because they wouldn't clean it properly.

Bonnie - posted on 11/07/2009

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you are the parent. what is your child's favorite passtime? tv, phone, games, computer...take it or them away for a day. if that means you don't get to watch tv then make that sacrifice for 1 day. you have to gain parental control if that means unplugging all the electrical goodies in the house. take the cell phone. remove everything, including books, from his room and confine him to that room. soon enough he will come around. but you have to NOT GIVE IN or you just feed the monster.

Tara - posted on 11/06/2009

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My kids aren't old enough for chores yet, but what worked for my mom was telling us no "Fun" stuff until chores, homework, etc were done. She did that right from the time she started giving us chores and none of us complained. She also did a "chore rotation" - each of us got switched to a different chore each week in rotation so none of us could say "but I always have to do THIS and my sisters never do!".

Jodi - posted on 11/06/2009

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Amanda, as the parent, why are you allowing it to even be an option? My children all have small daily chores that they do, and it *is not* an option at all. They do get rewarded at the end of the week with pocket money, but that does not mean it becomes an option.



You know what works for me if the kids complain about having to do their chores? I tell them they can go hungry tonight then because I really don't want to cook dinner either. It certainly makes them stop and think.



Also, as Andrea said, no "fun" things until the chores, etc are done.

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If chores are not done there is no TV, computer, wii, and no special snack. In our house my kids don't get any of the above until homework, piano lessons and chores are completed. It was a little tough at first, but now all 3 of my kids are used to the routine and I don't have a problem.

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